Author maestrok Posted June 20, 2013 Author Posted June 20, 2013 It's ok to subtly talk about each others wants/needs in relationships but don't call him out on it. But if you bring up the issue and start talkig about how his actions or lack of such made you feel upset - isnt that callin him out? I dont know how i should iniiate the convo like this - text him like can we talk? Lol
Estate Posted June 20, 2013 Posted June 20, 2013 But if you bring up the issue and start talkig about how his actions or lack of such made you feel upset - isnt that callin him out? I dont know how i should iniiate the convo like this - text him like can we talk? Lol Yes it is.... you're not going out long, so if you start bringing this stuff up either getting mad or showing a lot of emotion about it, it's going to make him want to run. The normal way would be to casually begin saying you're enjoying things lately (if you are) seeing him and were wondering what HE is used to in relationships. You can then bring the topic around to how you are used to a little more contact, like a little more texting or whatever when you are with someone but you just didn't want him thinking it was a bit much or anything if you text him a lot... so just wondering what is he used to or comfortable with. That's the more civil way to go about it. Ask HIM what he likes or wants in relationship, then it'll lead into what you like and just make the talk casual so he gets the idea and you're both more informed. But for the love of god, don't go at him saying how he is upsetting you already, he probably has no idea you're upset and if you say you are he's gonna be wondering what the hell he has done wrong. 2
Eggplant Posted June 20, 2013 Posted June 20, 2013 I dont know how i should iniiate the convo like this - text him like can we talk? Lol Do no such thing. You are far too emotionally affected by a guy you barely know. Do not initiate conversation. You reply to him if he texts you. Play TWO tits for a tat. And meet other people in the meantime.
SJC2008 Posted June 20, 2013 Posted June 20, 2013 No no some of you were saying callin him out would pressure him or might make me appear needy. And i was saying i feel like i should talk to him so that he doesnt think i givin him an attitude for no reason. Should i text him saying "can we talk?" ahhh idk what to say i dont think i should sound thay serious ..... Let me backtrack here for a sec. How long have you been dating him and how many dates have you gone on??
It's Just Me Posted June 20, 2013 Posted June 20, 2013 Should i text him saying "can we talk?" ahhh idk what to say i dont think i should sound thay serious ..... I'm going to sound like a broken record, but I don't care. Here's the deal: Maestrok, if a man really wants to know you and be with you, he makes every effort to do so. The message is ALWAYS loud and clear. He answers you. He asks about you. He's interested in you. He calls you. He makes dates and wants to see you again. If there are none of these things? Stop torturing yourself, respect yourself and your time, and move on.
Author maestrok Posted June 20, 2013 Author Posted June 20, 2013 I'm going to sound like a broken record, but I don't care. Here's the deal: Maestrok, if a man really wants to know you and be with you, he makes every effort to do so. The message is ALWAYS loud and clear. He answers you. He asks about you. He's interested in you. He calls you. He makes dates and wants to see you again. If there are none of these things? Stop torturing yourself, respect yourself and your time, and move on. I mean thats the thing. He answers he told me he likes me and he asks me out. But he does not ask about me and he does not call me. I dont know ... Im hell confused
Minneloa Posted June 20, 2013 Posted June 20, 2013 You have only been on one date, correct? If so, I think it is premature to have a conversation with him about his communication style. Rather, see if he asks you on another date, and take it from there. 4
miss_jaclynrae Posted June 20, 2013 Posted June 20, 2013 Wait... You guys have only been on one date? Why are you still dating him? Move on!
Leegh Posted June 20, 2013 Posted June 20, 2013 How do you do thay? Jut back off and wait until he acts? I cant concentrate on anything while anxiously waiting for sth to happen and what if he doesnt act? I feel like illl then regret thinking maybe i shouldve done sth no? Possibly you could wait a month and see if he contacts you, if not, then you could contact him one time, basically to see if he wants to get together. The ball will then be in his court, as he will know that you are definitely interested. I realize it's hard to wait, but patience is the key. If you rush things with him, it may scare him.
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