Javabear Posted June 19, 2013 Posted June 19, 2013 Nothing ever works out the way it should. I went through the WORST breakup about 9 months ago from my boyfriend of 3 years who left me suddenly for someone else. I was a wreck for a long time, and it still bothers me. However, a few months ago I started talking with this guy at work. At first it was very casual work talk, but as we got to know each other better it evolved into more meaningful conversations. On the last day of work, I wrote him a letter. It wasn't creepy or weird, I basically just told him that I thought he was a great person and I wished him well for the future. I was not expecting anything to come of it. But, he wrote back and we've been writing back and forth to each other for the last two weeks. We met for coffee last week, per my request. We had a great time and it was a lot of fun. He even said we should do it again sometime. But he moved 8 hours away two day ago. I think we're planning to keep talking... but it's just so frustrating. He's very hard to read and I can't figure out how he feels. And all of this might be a colossal waste of time anyway since I may never see him again. Maybe this is life's way of telling me I'm just not ready yet. What should I do?
endure Posted August 9, 2013 Posted August 9, 2013 Dear Javabear, You are a brave woman. However I really doubt if you are yet ready to jump into something new. I am saying this because I have been following your story closely and have been through something very similar. On my part, I have found that working on ourselves and finding our interests helps us much better along the path to recovery than to date right away. And once we are on our way to re-discovering who we really are, we wont fear rejection or anything because we know our own worth. I wish instead of getting into something which seems uphill from day one just focus on yourselves. You have already asked the guy for coffee so he knows you are interested and he knows where to find you. Thus, just lie back and focus on yourselves. You sound really hurt Javabear and you need to heal first. Love you loads and take care of yourself...
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