MadKurlz Posted October 13, 2004 Posted October 13, 2004 Okay, you guys wont belive this now! This is the coninuation for a post from 10/11 "my boyfriend dumped me" (must read to understand this post) So Monday afternoon, he calls me at work to talk about his dog, yadda yadda yadda. I was busy, so i told him I would call him back. He calls me back 20 minutes later and says to me, "hey why didnt you call me back?", i sd to him that i got busy with another phone call. and that i was still on the phone and I would call him when I was done, he sd okay. A few minutes later I get a text message frm him saying that there was a reason for him calling and that he wanted to talk to me. So I call him 1/2 hr later and he goes on to tell me that he is now feeling confused. I was like HUH? Goes on to explain that, In the morning when he woke up, and saw that I wasnt there he was like hmm. didnt think nothing of it, but when he got home from work is when he said it hit him, because he realized that I wasn't gonna come around anymore to be with him, or work on my puzzle , or cook with his mom, or sit and watch tv, or download any music. He said that all day he was missing me and was feeling something for me. but wasnt sure what he was feeling. He said he knew he was feeling confused, but also says he does have feelings for me . Anyhow, he sd that he wanted to be with me again and that he wanted to take it slow. He said he wanted it to be more like it was in the begining where we were getting to know each other, and having fun and not being so serious. Not to move so fast, cuz I can tell you we did move way too fast too soon. I admit that. Maybe it scared him away. He also said that he doesnt want me to feel like im wasting time with him. He is 24, Im 30 and we are at two diffrent outlooks right now. we both got seperated in october, i got divorced in feb, he is getting divorced this month. I know we both arent ready for anything serious at the moment. but He knows how i feel about having kids and being married agian. which i sprob wat scarred him away. Well I go on to tell him that I do like him alot and that when he dumped me on sunday night, it really did hurt me, but that i wasnt gonna cry anymore more for someone who doesnt want me. And that im terrified of getting with him again cuz what if 2 months down the road he then realizes that he really isnt into me. I told him this. He said he completley understood the way I felt, and that it was up to me. I then asked him if he was sure that it just wasnt that he was so used to me being around that he got accustomed to me being there, he said no, that he was sure with the way he was feeling all day at work, he is sure that he has feelings for me. okay people need advice here.
Sukotto Posted October 13, 2004 Posted October 13, 2004 Its possible that he's just missing your company and if he's not after any sort of romantic relationship and you still have feelings for him then it could just cause you all the pain again. I'd suggest you don't see each other for a while. This will let him get over the feelings of missing you and let him focus on what his true feelings are. A few weeks of no contact and then meet up for some activity the both of you enjoy and you might find that things click again. But don't dwell on this meeting, try and do some things for you. Go out with friends or redecorate! I done the decorating part when my ex and me split up, was quite theraputic.
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