EauJo Posted June 19, 2013 Posted June 19, 2013 (edited) Hi guys, My girlfriend recently broke up with me after a 2 year relationship (last tuesday) and we had a trip planned to Cuba for 1 week with another friend couple. At first we decided of not going. I really wanted to go cause I tought it was the chance for me to let her see what I really am and to let our love come back. So I told her that we should go and it's going to be fun. But she told me her decision on our breakup was already made and she didnt want to come back on it. She needed time. She also said that if we go there and it all goes well and we have fun and then we come back and she still doesnt feel like she loves like before, It's going to hurt me again, and she's right. But the thing is I feel like it could be a great oppurtinity for me to leave on a great note. Me and her having fun over there as friends. Anyway, so yesterday I went talk to her (we're in same school) about school stuff and she said out of nowhere: My mom probably wants to come with if you want to sell your ticket. I said alright, I respect your decision. And then she said but It's going to suck with my mom she's boring etc. I would like to go with you as friends. I said I would like to go to... So we decided we we're going together. We're going to have a room together so I am guessing we're probably going to have sex and stuff... I dont know what's going to happen. Alcool +++ She broke up with me cause I didn't gave her enough of my time, didnt took care of her. She asked for it and I couldn't give it. I tought she was mine and she wasnt going to leave but she did. Now I am really sad, I want her back and I feel like this trip is my chance to win her back. She clearly said we we're going as friends tho. Im scared of what's going to happen over there. We're clearly not going to hookup with other people but still. PS : One day before she broke up with me we spent the night together we had sex. She seemed distant but everything was ''Ok'' and then the day after she told me it was over. Edited June 19, 2013 by EauJo
Hopeinme Posted June 19, 2013 Posted June 19, 2013 IMHO, bad idea going for this trip. Why are you doing this to yourself?
Author EauJo Posted June 19, 2013 Author Posted June 19, 2013 I don't know, I feel like I should give it a try. Nothing to loose. I know it's going to hurt when we come back. But I prefer leave on a good note. + I'm not going to lose 900$
aloneinaz Posted June 19, 2013 Posted June 19, 2013 Understand, people don't just suddenly pull the trigger and end a relationship. They've been thinking about it for days/weeks or even months. So, she's had time to process and un-attach herself emotionally while it's a shock to you. For you to have a second chance with her, you'd need to disappear from her life for her to have a chance to miss you. Going on that trip is a bad idea. You're not going to change her opinion or decision right now. Only space away from you will POSSIBLY work.
Hopeinme Posted June 19, 2013 Posted June 19, 2013 You can leave on a good note throigh an email or a message. Seriously, its going to get worse if you go on that trip. Up to you!
Sneaky Posted June 19, 2013 Posted June 19, 2013 This seems like a really bad idea. You're clearly not over her, hell you're going there under false pretenses expecting to have sex. (Part of your plan is also to get her drunk in order to do this? What?) I really have no idea what you're expecting beyond this but the entire trip is probably going to hurt like hell so yeah, my advise is not to go. Sell the ticket to the mother and go no contact. Just my opinion.
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