Omei Posted June 19, 2013 Posted June 19, 2013 (edited) my ex broke up with me a little over a month ago there is NC. I was crushed, it was five years long I never felt afraid he would go out and be with someone else im confident he wouldn't know how even if he did! Stuff he said has made me see him in a different light that it doesn't torcher me in my head like one would think. But I find this odd I have no sex drive anymore, thinking about it doesn't interest me, the only time I do think about it is how can I ever have sex with someone else? I am moving on, everytime I picture sex I picture him and tbh in past relationships I wasn't this way and the one I just got out of he never wanted to experiment or do much of what I wanted so it wasn't even like it was amazing it anything ive had better, I think? I am not hurting in ways of like who's he gonna be with im so upset etc im fine but is it normal to completely lose the sex drive? I still can't picture ever being with anyone else and at this moment its not like I wanna go back ither. Does this go away after time? Edited June 19, 2013 by Omei
TRUBLU Posted June 19, 2013 Posted June 19, 2013 Do you have any answers about how to keep nc on because ive blown it a lot.
theonlyjuan Posted June 19, 2013 Posted June 19, 2013 (edited) It will fade, Everything does Edited June 19, 2013 by theonlyjuan
Pisces13 Posted June 19, 2013 Posted June 19, 2013 It's normal. I'm a guy, and my ex dumped me 3 months ago. I've felt the same though, little to no sex drive, not with any other girl at least. It will fade in due time.
Author Omei Posted June 19, 2013 Author Posted June 19, 2013 Do you have any answers about how to keep nc on because ive blown it a lot. I blew it a lot, I begged I grew tired of begging when I would just get hurt more and more with rejection and the "I can still be your best friend" that's a kick in the teeth when you love someone you can never be their friend without hurting sooo much, I trashed everything, i got rid of everything, I errased every fb comment, defriend, took all pictures off my pc, emails, removed number from phone, trashed bills with number on them even threw away his gifts. E V E R Y T H I N G........it was the only way for me because I truly loved them. I am so hurt, and you know what? I got wasted a few days ago and TRIED to break contact, I did so well on ridding everything I couldn't find a way to contact....none tried for 3 hours, when I got sober I was so glad. still in NC.
theonlyjuan Posted June 19, 2013 Posted June 19, 2013 I blew it a lot, I begged I grew tired of begging when I would just get hurt more and more with rejection and the "I can still be your best friend" that's a kick in the teeth when you love someone you can never be their friend without hurting sooo much, I trashed everything, i got rid of everything, I errased every fb comment, defriend, took all pictures off my pc, emails, removed number from phone, trashed bills with number on them even threw away his gifts. E V E R Y T H I N G........it was the only way for me because I truly loved them. I am so hurt, and you know what? I got wasted a few days ago and TRIED to break contact, I did so well on ridding everything I couldn't find a way to contact....none tried for 3 hours, when I got sober I was so glad. still in NC. Keep at it. You will only feel like crap and take 10 steps backwards. You will also give them all the power and they will know they can manipulate you, if they wanted
aloneinaz Posted June 19, 2013 Posted June 19, 2013 I agree your feelings will fade. You probably have no sex drive because the sex w/your ex was so lousy. I've dated a lot over the past 5 years. It's amazing how many women in their 40's where LOUSY in the sack. This was because they had someone like you ex for years and was all they knew. After learning what sex COULD BE, they were PISSED that they tolerated their ex's lousy sex. You'll continue to fell better as each day passes. Focus on you and soon you might be interested in going on casual dates again. Just think, she might meet someone you like who ROCKS your world in the bedroom!
Author Omei Posted June 19, 2013 Author Posted June 19, 2013 I agree your feelings will fade. You probably have no sex drive because the sex w/your ex was so lousy. I've dated a lot over the past 5 years. It's amazing how many women in their 40's where LOUSY in the sack. This was because they had someone like you ex for years and was all they knew. After learning what sex COULD BE, they were PISSED that they tolerated their ex's lousy sex. You'll continue to fell better as each day passes. Focus on you and soon you might be interested in going on casual dates again. Just think, she might meet someone you like who ROCKS your world in the bedroom! I wouldnt say it was lousy or all i knew my partners before him were quite the experimental guys. What I don't get is I dont remember being hung up on them sexually, the man who left me was with me as long as the others when I think about sex I can only see him I cant picture a stranger, he was veryyyy good looking tho unlike my past ex's.
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