MrJay10 Posted June 19, 2013 Posted June 19, 2013 Alright so I have a problem. I'm a 21 year old guy, super nice, super gentleman, and I feel like every time I start talking to a girl and she starts to like me, I can't get it to slow down. Idk if it's just me being too much of myself or too nice or what, but I can sense deep in my heart I'm really not into the girl, the way she is into me. And when she tries to tease me or whatever I always go along with it like I can't stop. Then when I want out, it's too late, and I end up breaking the girls heart. Once it starts and I can't say no. She puts her hand onto mine or starts messing with me, and I feel like I can't resist. Idk if anyone else has this problem, but I've had my heart broken a couple times so maybe it's why I'm so eager to always go along with anyone that comes my way. Idk I just need advice on how to say no and not lead the girl on without coming off as a jerk. I can't help being myself and sometimes I feel that's what attracts them to me. I hope I'm not coming off as egotistical because I hate that I'm this way. I also am not really good at taking things slow, it's almost like I don't know how. Please any advice would be helpful. I just kissed a girl tonight and I'm not really into her the way she probably thinks. Now I feel stuck :/
Sunlight72 Posted June 19, 2013 Posted June 19, 2013 OK MrJay, here's the real answer. Get some self respect and be a man. If you're not into a girl, do not kiss her. Do not put your arm around her. You can help it. You control your body, and you control your mouth. "Letting it happen" is a chicken way of living. Saying that a girl flirted with you, and then against your better judgement you 'found yourself' kissing her is a wuss cop-out. Being a man means to be straight with your words and your actions - they follow Your De-cisions. They do not 'just happen' by accident or surprise. ----------------------- What to say? How about holding her hand in both of yours and saying, "I don't like you like that." Then let her hand go, and go elsewhere. Let her be.
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