ComingInHot Posted June 19, 2013 Posted June 19, 2013 Okay, so this isn't a huge deal but as a Married woman who has been forced to deal with Husband's INFIDELITY, I think maybe I was more aware of what happened yesterday. So, playing tennis w/my son and he went off to lift weights and an, ummmm, ¿older? Gentleman, or error ¿mature? Man asked if he could warm up w/me waiting on his son. I am NOT judging book on cover here regarding tennis because as long as you can get to the ball, you can place it anywhere. This man was really a good player. It was fun. Well, his son shows up an hour later so I ended our rallying and headed up to the club house. Here it is, older man politely introduces his son to me. I was polite and said hello. Then older guy stops me Again from leaving & says, Oh you have to tell my son about your shoulder... alrighty then... I gave his son my sixty second condenced version. As I again end the conversation for good, the final thing older man says as I'm walking on the path, "Hey CIH if there IS a Husband... WE hope you had a great Father's Day ...!!! Really??!? Lol! I was wearing my wedding band & diamond. Made very clear by how I held my raquet that it would show. But what is humorous is that this grown man's Father was fishing to see if I'd get hooked on his son!!! Do men reach like Sixty and no longer feel the need to check left ring fingers? Have any of you ever fished for your children? Will I do that one day too? If this man Only knew....
Woggle Posted June 19, 2013 Posted June 19, 2013 Many men go after married women because they are seen as much easier. Little do they know what happens when this same woman all of a sudden no longer loves her husband.
AbeNormal Posted June 19, 2013 Posted June 19, 2013 (edited) Nope to the "maybe in his sixties" thing and not being able to see a ring on your finger - nope. Cheeze and sleeze. Call it what it is. Like in the Ghost Busters' movies, wipe the slime off and keep going. (I feel certain that is what you have done CIH, and that you are just venting here. So I hope you will forgive me for venting as well.) And it's not even about the ring. Neither my wife nor I wear those now. It's about the cheeze and sleaze - and we know those people abound. Edited June 19, 2013 by AbeNormal 1
Author ComingInHot Posted June 19, 2013 Author Posted June 19, 2013 Oh naw guys, I'm not upset so much as a little surprised that A. Older man was fishing for his son & B. He didn't think to check for a ring or ask Before his son arrived. The entire conversation w/his son was all of two/three minutes. I Do think the son noticed my ring. I didn't give much thought until I was walking away and the father made his statement/question referring to my/a husband. Which of course my reply was sweet and absolutely Affirmative to the fact I AM M & we had a wonderful Father's Day weekend* Note to self - check M status before fishing for my children. Even better... don't fish for a partner for my son or daughter* I don't know the rules for parents of grown children ... yet. 1
Author ComingInHot Posted June 19, 2013 Author Posted June 19, 2013 Forum Lurker, They were both lovely & respectful. And I didn't even think about a woman wearing a ring on her left ring finger who are single. But of course, why not?! Women love their bling! At least I Do*
BetrayedH Posted June 19, 2013 Posted June 19, 2013 I am always fishing for married women for my 11 year-old son. Are you saying I should stop that? As for not seeing your ring, he probably got caught up with your eyes. Sorry, in a funny mood this morning. (Where's that Darth Vader guy to back me up?) 4
will1988 Posted June 19, 2013 Posted June 19, 2013 My father used to try to fish for me, and it embarassed the hell out of me. My father for the longest time would try to get me to go on dates with his friends from church's daughters. It was freaking annoying. He wanted me to marry a good Catholic girl (ironiclly, my mom, his first wife, and now my step mom... are both protestant), even though he knows i am not religious. None of the girls were even that attractive....anway, back to your topic. Do not do this to your son or daughter when they are older! They hate it when parents get involved in their dating life. All sugestions you make or people you try to hook them up with will result in 99% of the times, failure. Now on to this guy and his son. Honestly, maybe he didn't notice the ring. In my single years the left hand was always one of the first places i looked. I don't want to go after someone who is off the market. This is a natural thing for most guys. We look. So this makes me wonder, either these guys were real sleezy... blind....ignorant.... or just being overly flirty and talkative. Who knows? 1
Author ComingInHot Posted June 19, 2013 Author Posted June 19, 2013 Thanks for the thought, and I'll TRY to remember to not attempt matchmaker for my kids. Lol!! I kind of think his son Did notice the rings. They were both pleasant. I just found it weirdly funny that the father was fishing for his Mid Thirtyish year old son. I'm sure there's a story there, but I don't want to know. 1
Thegameoflife Posted June 19, 2013 Posted June 19, 2013 It was father's day, and your son was hanging out with you instead of his dad. Pretty fair assumption that maybe the Dad was out of the picture. My mom used to try and hook me up with daughters of people she knew. Some of them were good looking, but I didn't want to date someone just so my mom could giggle with her friend about us. 2
waterwoman Posted June 19, 2013 Posted June 19, 2013 Oh my lordy! When I was 18 I travelled to South Africa to visit my cousin. I worked at her H's firm and earned enough to go travelling. On my way back to Jo'burg I travelled on the Blue Train from Kimberley. I am tall and at the time was tanned and blond, long legs and on my own - I guess I looked like a likely lass. This somewhat scary Afrikaaner man - middle aged, very strong accent, not a great deal of English tried to fix me up with his late teenage/early twenties son. Son was in army uniform and didn't smile the entire time. In the end they invited me back to their berth for a glass of wine. I politely declined and found a nice old lady to talk to ..... she was much nicer and gave me a crate of avocados. 1
Author ComingInHot Posted June 20, 2013 Author Posted June 20, 2013 Water woman, AWESOME!! thegameoflife wrote, " It was father's day, and your son was hanging out with you instead of his dad. Pretty fair assumption that maybe the Dad was out of the picture." Ya know gameoflife I didn't even think of that! (Some things just allude me way to often)*
Confused48 Posted June 20, 2013 Posted June 20, 2013 You know CIH, it could be just a not so PC way for them to say, "We both think you are hot." Neither one of them may have actually been trying to get you to date the kid. Maybe they just wanted to let you know they found you attractive and so let you know in a joking sort of way. If either one of them had really thought you were available to them I doubt they would broach the subject in that way.
Darth Vader Posted June 29, 2013 Posted June 29, 2013 I am always fishing for married women for my 11 year-old son. Are you saying I should stop that? As for not seeing your ring, he probably got caught up with your eyes. Sorry, in a funny mood this morning. (Where's that Darth Vader guy to back me up?) I'm around! And I'm everywhere!:cool: 4
JustAReformedGirl Posted June 29, 2013 Posted June 29, 2013 Lol, that is pretty amusing. Glad you took it with a good sense of humour; it sounds like a real compliment, in its own way. The older gentleman must have thought you'd look good next to his son. I have to wonder if his son was a little embarrassed by it; I find no matter how old you get, you can still find yourself with teenaged-like embarrassment, when your parents do things like that. I know I still do...I'm just better at concealing it, now.
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