Mws Posted June 19, 2013 Posted June 19, 2013 I dont know what to do anymore, my ex girlfriend of 5 years just left me a month ago. We where best friends for the whole time with that passion and romance. All our friends always said how perfect we are for eachother all the time and we where we knew it too. She has recently changed her number blocked me on facebook, and there is no way to contact eachother. I am terrified of not just losing her forever but losing my best friend. IN the last month things became so bad and we started to hate eachother she started seeing some one else recently who she said she liked but couldnt talk to me because what we have is too powerful of a force and doesnt want it to interfere with her new relationship. I can't even think of dating right now and cant get out of bed anymore, I have been through many breakups in the past but this girl is different I believe in my heart that she was the love of my life and I think she lost that feeling, I dont know what to do anymore i cant even call her to tell her my dad died or that I lost my job. I need advice because I am losing hope fast and getting severly depressed and manic.
Type4 Posted June 19, 2013 Posted June 19, 2013 I'm sorry, but you're going to have to get over her. Take her off the pedestal. There will be another. It's not as bad as you think, you're still alive, and there are endless possibilities out there. 2
HopelessRomantick Posted June 19, 2013 Posted June 19, 2013 Same here Mws. It sucks big time right now and it seems you will never be able to function again. But you will. Although I am still not out of the woods since she broke up with me 11 months ago, i am by far functioning again and living life. I will not deny that I still think about her constantly totally consumed by memories, but I am functioning. Hang in there. It gets better.
landshark Posted June 19, 2013 Posted June 19, 2013 Dude, get out of the house now! If she was truly the love of your life, then she would be reciprocating...she sounds less than honorable. I know that you can't see this now, its natural. Take things hour by hour, if that doesn't work, minute by minute. You will find the
landshark Posted June 19, 2013 Posted June 19, 2013 Sorry, you will find the true love of your life, after you answer tough questions and do the work that next several months will throw at you.....
travelbug1996 Posted June 19, 2013 Posted June 19, 2013 she has moved on that fast? wow. I know the pain you feel and you have to believe that time will heal your heart. Just let the pain pass through your body don't repress it. But also don't wallow in it either. Try to get out and spend time with people who love you and go to the gym. It really has saved me in my heartbreak. Also what helps me is seeing the other person as the really are and not who I thought or they may have pretended to be. Hang tight and keep your head up.
RangerJeremiah Posted June 19, 2013 Posted June 19, 2013 Hang in there buddy, plenty more fish in the sea. All things must pass.
Suave Posted June 19, 2013 Posted June 19, 2013 Don't think for a second that she has suddenly just moved on. She's probably had a few options on the side going until she made up her mind about what she wanted to do. Women rarely just end a relationship without a fallback plan waiting in the wings, or at least the ones I've interacted with. 1
hoping2heal Posted June 19, 2013 Posted June 19, 2013 I dont know what to do anymore, my ex girlfriend of 5 years just left me a month ago. We where best friends for the whole time with that passion and romance. All our friends always said how perfect we are for eachother all the time and we where we knew it too. She has recently changed her number blocked me on facebook, and there is no way to contact eachother. I am terrified of not just losing her forever but losing my best friend. IN the last month things became so bad and we started to hate eachother she started seeing some one else recently who she said she liked but couldnt talk to me because what we have is too powerful of a force and doesnt want it to interfere with her new relationship. I can't even think of dating right now and cant get out of bed anymore, I have been through many breakups in the past but this girl is different I believe in my heart that she was the love of my life and I think she lost that feeling, I dont know what to do anymore i cant even call her to tell her my dad died or that I lost my job. I need advice because I am losing hope fast and getting severly depressed and manic. Commitment is very underrated. The "perfect" woman for you won't dump you. She wouldn't leave you and isn't going anywhere. Losing someone who was so important to you is undoubtedly painful and heart wrenching, but that doesn't mean they were the end all, be all. No one is perfect, we all have flaws but the person worthy of your time and affection is the person mature enough to undertake a commitment to you and follow through with it. I'm sorry to hear about the death of your Father and your job loss. Those are 2 serious life events that bring about alot of sadness on their own, without factoring in losing your girlfriend. But, now is the time to reach out to your friends for support and not be grasping straws towards your ex-girlfriend. 2
chaychay Posted June 19, 2013 Posted June 19, 2013 Im going through something similar. Its not easy. I guess time heals all wounds.
Author Mws Posted June 20, 2013 Author Posted June 20, 2013 Thanks everyone for the input, it is really still not easy and even though she has hurt me beyond forgiveness some part of me just remembers the beautiful shy caring girl I fell in love with she was so perfect back then. I guess moral of the story is never date a lawyer. thats when she turned into a bitch
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