millerband86 Posted June 18, 2013 Posted June 18, 2013 Recently my g/f has been acting a bit out of normal, not texting me back for extended periods of time etc. which is very much unlike her and i'm met with the excuse of "I was sleeping" or "You didn't get my texts?" The sleeping one at very odd times of that day that in the time i've known her she wouldn't normally be asleep and there hasn't been the problem of me not getting texts in the past. While some of you may not agree i'm going to ask to look at her phone, something I haven't done in the 10 months we've been together, and something she does to me constantly. What I'm wondering is what if I find that she was just lying to me and straight up chose not to text me back/ignore me? I can take rejection i've been through it before but i'm curious what my course of action should be, to get up and leave? Have an argument? Ask her wth is up?
Ami1uwant Posted June 18, 2013 Posted June 18, 2013 Its quite possible she is hiding something from you....but asking for the phone isnt the way to do it. There are ways of hiding stuff in your really want to. If she has another guy she is interested in she puts it as another name (a female name) that you wouldnt realize who it was or put the context name under her best friend but the context or the phone number is from can show who its really from. for example her friend "sara" has a contect number and she classifies the other as her work phone so one person is Sara, and the other is Sara work...but Sara work really isnt Sara but a cover for someone else. You can gpo about this a different way by noticing the change in behavior and her what is really going on...and discuss it. If you dont believe her you tell her that. Its quite common for women if they want to find someone else they keep the past boyfriend around but still persue and upgrade and when they think they found one they dump the ex for the greener grass.
shexy Posted June 19, 2013 Posted June 19, 2013 It does sound suspicious, but telling her you want to look at her phone is not the answer. She's just going to get mad, and throw a fit about how you don't trust her, and blah blah blah. Which, you don't trust her. I would suggest just asking outright what's going on, is she hiding something? If she is hiding something, she'll probably deny it anyway. She may end up telling you if she is, which would be ideal. And a previous poster said it's common for women to be out man shopping while in a relationship is true in some cases, but I think this tends to be more of a trend with younger women. So depending on what age you are, yes, she could be out trying to play games. And I do have to point out its not just women that do that, men do it too (IJS)
CC12 Posted June 19, 2013 Posted June 19, 2013 Are you trying to find evidence of her cheating on you, or something else? Because if your first reaction is "She might be cheating on me" that's a little unfair if she's never given you any reason to be suspicious. I think most people in a healthy relationship would first wonder if she's just losing interest or having personal issues, not necessarily that she's lying to you and out gallivanting around when she says she's sleeping. To me, that seems a little paranoid. I think a more appropriate course of action would be to simply sit her down and say, "Hey, I've noticed you haven't been as responsive when I text you lately, is something up?" It's always better to talk to your partner if something is bothering you, rather than going nuclear and demanding proof that she's really sleeping when she says she is, or whatever. It's not nice to be on the receiving end of that and your girlfriend will likely not appreciate it at all.
Keenly Posted June 19, 2013 Posted June 19, 2013 If she goes through your phone constantly, and her communication pattern has suddenly drastically changed, she is cheating on you.
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