tstreit15 Posted June 18, 2013 Posted June 18, 2013 So I've been working with this girl for a year now and I could always tell there has been a little sexual tension between us but I finally asked her out on a date and she said yes. I took her out to a local pizza joint since we would order pizza at work so I knew she liked it. Afterwords we went on a walk. The walk ended up lasting much longer than I had anticipated (hour and a half) and we both had a great time. After dropping her off I wanted to give her a kiss on the cheek but she turned her head more and it ended up being on the lips. I took this as a pretty good sign. She texted me after and said she had a very good time! I then asked her out on a second date and as anticipated she said yes. Now im having difficulty deciding where to go on a second date. I live in a relatively small town in North Dakota (60,000). She is native to this town and I am not so im having a tough time figuring out what to do. I am 22 and she is 20. The date will be on saturday night. I wanted to bring her over and make her dinner then watch a movie but after reading posts on this forum i am realizing that may not be such a good idea since some women seem to have a predisposition that this means all we want is sex. I am looking for a lasting relationship. I am still open to the idea of dinner and a movie at my place but I would like to know your opinions! Is this a good idea or what would you guys/gals suggest?
BradJacobs Posted June 18, 2013 Posted June 18, 2013 What matters is what this girl thinks. Why don't you give her a choice of the dinner and movie at your place or doing something else?
Leegh Posted June 18, 2013 Posted June 18, 2013 I think since it will be only your second date, a restaurant might be a better place. It may be a little too soon to take her to your place. Possibly you could take her to a restaurant, and then to a movie afterwards, or another option is to take her to a movie, then get a bite to eat afterwards. Casual may be the way to go. Good Luck
Feelin Frisky Posted June 18, 2013 Posted June 18, 2013 Take her OUT. experience her and experience things with her. If it gets affectionate tell her you'd love to be alone with her and see if she'll want to go off with you to your place. It's a better move than just taking her there. You would do better to get to know each other a little more and keep an exit. When you're home you don't have an exit. You're right that it is thought that we want sex and this can be a contention down the line if you don't do more. On the other hand people who work in the same place often develop feelings from before you actually meet and some want to cut right to the chase. Plan to go out and have the fall-back plan to take her home if that's what you two are into.
BradJacobs Posted June 18, 2013 Posted June 18, 2013 I think since it will be only your second date, a restaurant might be a better place. It may be a little too soon to take her to your place. He's worked with this woman for a year ... they may not have a "too soon".
Mr.Mango Posted June 18, 2013 Posted June 18, 2013 I second the restaurant idea. It's definitely not the most exciting option, but it's a good choice for multiple reasons. You're only distracted by food and it gives you a good chance to talk and get to know each other. It's also a good pathway into other options. If you hit it off again you can extend the date, if it doesn't go so well you can leave without it being needlessly awkward. It also allows her to set the pace a bit too, since you're worried about jumping in the sack too quickly. In any case, there is no sure-fire method to get a long lasting relationship. You probably just don't want to rush things, but also don't go at a snails pace and bore her.
Author tstreit15 Posted June 20, 2013 Author Posted June 20, 2013 we have been txting back and forth at least for a while every day and she has usually initiated it. is that a good sign and would that make it any more appropriate to go with my initial plan?
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