Is this just me?

[theonlyjuan]

Why are we all able to dish advice out to others but when we have our own problems, we seek outside advice?

 

Is it reassurance?

 

I feel if someone came to my with my problem, I would be confident in telling them ( Things will get better, You will meet someone better, Try new things etc )

 

I personally struggle to believe my own advice.

 

I gave my friend advice once when he broke up with his girlfriend. I said confidently ' Stop trying so hard. Have fun enjoy yourself and stop looking. As soon as you stop looking the right person turns up'

 

He gave me my own advice the other day.

[Hopeinme]

No, it is not just you. I find it funny how I am going through a hard time getting over the breakup, and cant seem to put it infront of me. Yet, i read threads here and everything seems so 'duh' to me and giving out advice is so easy! Yet, I cant seem to apply it myself... I think it is just human nature :/ i am pretty sure we will be able to heed advice someday. We need to BELIEVE and act! Everything will be okieeeee xxx

[CaliBabe]

You are not alone. I'm with you on this one.

[Pisces13]

I think it's just easier to give other people advice because you don't have that emotional attachment there like you do in your own situation. I do it as well. I know everything that I should be doing, yet I don't do it because deep down I don't want to admit that it's over.

[Sneaky]

Not being emotionally invested makes us see things more rationally, I guess. When reading the replies to my situation I genuinely had the feeling like I should know all this stuff already and had a serious, "What the hell am I doing?" moment.

 

It's also reassuring to vent and find people having been or are going through the same situation or people that just care.

[McGriff]

It's called "love is blind", or "the fog" and you are in it in your situation and not invested in others. It's quite bizarre actually, but a good observation.