Need some insight

[Want_Happiness]

Going to give a condensed version:

 

So I started seeing this girl in April. Things were great, feelings were expressed and I know nothing is perfect but this was damn near it. We wouldn’t really see each other every day, I think it was more like an every other day give or take. Here comes May... around the middle to be exact, she just pushed me away and broke it off. The reason I got was that she thought she was in love but wasn’t sure, that she wasn’t ready for a relationship and had to focus on herself/school. I was shocked and upset... but that was her choice and I let it be. None the less I picked up my broken heart yet again and moved on. So just like the Gloriana song "Can’t Shake You" I tried other lovers but I couldn’t shake her. It seems she is all I can think about.

 

So the end of May came and I felt like I had to let her know how I felt so I sent her a message that said I missed her, I missed us and what we were. Well I didn’t get a reply back until Fathers Day. She said to text her so I did and I told her I meant what I sent her and that I really miss her a lot and that even texting her at that moment I was shaky. So she came back and said that she misses me too but she’s trying to figure out her life, no relationships. I proceeded to tell her that I wanted to meet her after she broke up so that I could tell her things, which I then texted to her. I told her that I enjoyed every hug, held hand, kiss, just every moment we had together and that she has a special place in my heart. I also told her that I understand and respect her choice, that I just needed to tell her those things and that I will be in town until 2015 so if she figures out whatever it is she needs to and wanted to give us another go that I'm here.

 

She then replied that she just couldn’t meet up with me because she knew how hard it would’ve been. She also said anything can happen and to just look at what we had in just a month that we were dating and that we had so much fun together. So my question I guess is she really thinking about her choice? Did she make the right one in letting me go? Is it worth the chance? I would want her back in a heartbeat. I've never felt this so certain about anyone. Let me know your thoughts on this. Thanks

[Hopeinme]

Its nice that she did not want to meet because honestly, things could have gotten a lot worse if you guys did. Imo, i thinkk she sounds pretty confused but i think she is leaning towards breaking up. You should go NC and let her think about you guys. If its worth the chance, she will come back to you

[Want_Happiness]

Hi Hope,

 

Thanks for your feedback. I agree with you and with her about the meeting up and how it would’ve been too hard. I also agree that she seems very confused for what reason... who knows. We are already broken up by the way since mid-May.

 

I guess my thing is that I believe that if something is worth fighting for then you fight til you have nothing left. I am just letting her have the time and space she needs to figure herself out, that’s why I just put it out there that if she wants to give us another try we can but at the same time I can’t stop and wait for her. As sad as it is I will still need to continue on and hope that if it’s meant to be then everything will fall in place.

 

The one thing that gets me is she waited so long after my message I sent to reply back. If someone didn’t want anything to do with the other person why would they waste their time with a reply?

 

I’ve always said she was confused and didn’t know if she was making the right choice. I guess what I'm hoping for is a storybook ending where we get back together and are happier than ever. I miss her and still very much love her.

[Hopeinme]

Hi Hope,

 

Thanks for your feedback. I agree with you and with her about the meeting up and how it would’ve been too hard. I also agree that she seems very confused for what reason... who knows. We are already broken up by the way since mid-May.

 

I guess my thing is that I believe that if something is worth fighting for then you fight til you have nothing left. I am just letting her have the time and space she needs to figure herself out, that’s why I just put it out there that if she wants to give us another try we can but at the same time I can’t stop and wait for her. As sad as it is I will still need to continue on and hope that if it’s meant to be then everything will fall in place.

 

The one thing that gets me is she waited so long after my message I sent to reply back. If someone didn’t want anything to do with the other person why would they waste their time with a reply?

 

I’ve always said she was confused and didn’t know if she was making the right choice. I guess what I'm hoping for is a storybook ending where we get back together and are happier than ever. I miss her and still very much love her.

 

I totally understand how you feel. Hmm, regarding the part of why she replied, it could be that she just wanted to be polite. Besides, she took so long to reply! I agree that if it is worth something, you have to fight for it. But I think you habe already made it clear to her that you want to give it a shot. The ball's in her court now and its up to her to make the move now. Give her the time she needs and please try to be nice to yourself. I think its good that you try to slowly stop harbouring thoughts of getting back together. Ypu will be fine!!! Hoe things work out if its meant to be x

[Want_Happiness]

So quick update... I texted her yesterday cause on Sunday she told me that she would find out if she got into school on Tuesday and I wanted to see if she got accepted. She told me later that she did and I told her that I'd like to take her out to get a drink to celebrate but that it was up to her. She told me not that day so I told her no problem, maybe next time. I got a text from her this morning asking me if I had my kids this weekend. So I told her no that I didnt have plans for this weekend either. She came back and said that we should get that drink if she can get her son watched. I told her that I would like that and just to text me if shes able to go and we will figure out when/where.

 

What would you make of this? To me I would think that if she wasnt interested she wouldve never came back with a reply or just said no to the idea. Also to be honest I wasnt expecting her to want to either but I'm kinda glad she did though. I hope this turns out the way I want cause I honestly think we are great for each other.

[Hopeinme]

All the best to you then. I hope you get what she wants. I dont know her personally so I really dont know what her intentions are. I hope she really isnt leading you on. Keep us updated! X