What do you think of men in their 50's who go for 20 year old girls?

[FitChick]

Just because a woman is young doesn't automatically mean she is beautiful.

[xxoo]

His answer: If I wanted to speak abut philosophy, world affairs, political views or reading material, I would date a 50 Year old Woman, for good old hanky panky and feeling good about MYSELF, I have the girlfriend .....

 

Why does he not feel good about himself with women his age?

[jolie_baby]

there is nothing cool about a man 50 dating a woman 20 or vice versa; it is kinda gross. 30 years difference is too much. For their own sake adopt them and pay for their college fees than date them.

[fishtaco]

If it's legal, consenting adults should be allowed to do whatever they want. I'm a big proponent of "whatever floats your boat". If I don't like your life choices, I stay away from you, but I let you be.

 

Maybe I'm too tolerant? Perhaps the world needs more righteousness?

[carhill]

But then again I'm 25. Ask me again when that age doubles, I may have a different answer.

 

Tip: If my experience is any indicator, one feels the same at my age as when in one's twenties, except the image in the mirror has changed a bit. I heard the same thing from my mom in her 70's. She felt much like the same woman in the old grainy photos playing with the infant carhill, except when she looked in the mirror.

[Woggle]

What consenting adults do is their business.

[semicharmedlife]

my gfs 21 year old twin neice's are frequently dating men in their 40's...i just don't get it. the guys have been immature loser types that have neither money or looks...so I don't know what the attraction is...when I was 20 and hit on by older men...it totally creeped me out!

 

On the flip side...a few years back when I was newly divorced in my early 40's...I had a few young guys approach me....and while I was initially flattered...it didnt take long for me to see that they had much more in common with my kids than with me...

[AutumnRose1974]

Younger women go for older guys for money.

 

Whatever floats your boat. Have fun with your senile old man/woman when you have your 35th birthday.

 

I'm 38, and I have been been involved with a man 34 years my senior (which makes him 72 now) for the past 8 years. His money (he was working for the USPS when I first met him) was the last thing about him that attracted me. His personality, his looks (72 but looks about 20 years younger), and the fact that he is amazing in bed (doesn't need Viagra , puts my pleasure first before his own, and is creative), and treats me as a woman should be treated by a man - that's why I love being around him.

 

Senile?? You wish. He's a 50-year practitioner of the Martial Arts (Black Belt in Karate as well as Judo), and he focuses just as much on the mental/spiritual aspects as on the physical (and he still works out twice a day, every day so he is in excellent shape, more so than most men half his age). He's a real sweetheart when you meet him halfway, but not someone you want to cross or piss off. We've had several confrontations and, thankfully for my sake, they all took place over text or voicemail. He's also no moron when it comes to computers, either - he is an in-demand DJ whose service is completely computerized.

 

So... you were saying...?

[jolie_baby]

there are so many young men who have the same qualities and are your age or so...

[therhythm]

What do I think of 50 year old men who go for 20 years old women? Probably I will be one of you one day

[AutumnRose1974]

there are so many young men who have the same qualities and are your age or so...

 

Haven't met ONE who knows how to open a door properly for a woman (the man opens it and she walks through first, no matter what side/direction it opens).

 

There are a lot of little courtesies that are not being instilled in younger men these days, and that, to me, is unacceptable so, yeah, I am going to gravitate more towards someone who has an understanding of "social graces" because they were drilled into him as a child. I feel truly sorry for the teen/20-something's (and those who will follow them), because classy social behavior is sadly becoming extinct.

[Mme. Chaucer]

I think that they're guys who wouldn't be going out with me! Either in recent decades, OR when I was a 20 year old girl.

[Southern Cal Dude]

Haven't met ONE who knows how to open a door properly for a woman (the man opens it and she walks through first, no matter what side/direction it opens).

 

There are a lot of little courtesies that are not being instilled in younger men these days, and that, to me, is unacceptable so, yeah, I am going to gravitate more towards someone who has an understanding of "social graces" because they were drilled into him as a child. I feel truly sorry for the teen/20-something's (and those who will follow them), because classy social behavior is sadly becoming extinct.

 

 

It goes for both genders. Men aren't acting like men, and women aren't acting like women. I blame feminism for that.

[Woggle]

Haven't met ONE who knows how to open a door properly for a woman (the man opens it and she walks through first, no matter what side/direction it opens).

 

There are a lot of little courtesies that are not being instilled in younger men these days, and that, to me, is unacceptable so, yeah, I am going to gravitate more towards someone who has an understanding of "social graces" because they were drilled into him as a child. I feel truly sorry for the teen/20-something's (and those who will follow them), because classy social behavior is sadly becoming extinct.

 

It's funny that many young men date older women because they actually appreciate those gestures instead of being looked at like a creepy freak from another era. Maybe the younger generation just sucks and the ones that don't suck tend to go older.

[pink_sugar]

My dad does this and I think it's gross. It's one thing if you happen to hit it off without knowing their age. But to purposely pursue girls your daughter's age is disturbing IMO.

[will1988]

So it sounds like most people are saying it's just the sex that is the attraction.

 

Mostly... I know plenty of horny old men 50 and above. It is a male trait. I know for a fact that I will be the same way when I am 50!

[Ripnet]

My dad does this and I think it's gross. It's one thing if you happen to hit it off without knowing their age. But to purposely pursue girls your daughter's age is disturbing IMO.

 

I agree. I am attracted usually older women or younger women. Rarely though I'm attracted to a woman around my age. I once knew a 22 year old end up dating a guy in his 30's. She was very mature for her age and she wanted to start a family soon.

[MissBee]

When I've personally witnessed this dynamic it's always blatantly cliched.

 

I have seen it a few times and it's generally with a well off 50 year old and a struggling 20 year old. What can I think, besides the fact that he wants a young girl and she sees it as an opportunity, and if she wasn't in a certain disadvantaged position, she'd probably not give him the time of day. So it's a win-win almost business-like arrangement for both.

 

Whatever people may say, I think it is rare that a 20 year old woman, barring one with daddy issues, is genuinely interested in the average 50 year old man for a real relationship. When I was 20 I sure wasn't. I've always liked older men growing up, but 20-30 years older was unfathomable. 10 would've probably been the max gap. I'm still in my twenties, and while I'm very mature, for a real relationship, I don't think I'd date someone who could be my dad. I mean...I look at some 50 year old men who are very handsome and delicious looking on tv and think yess.... But for a real relationship I don't think someone who is more similar in age to my parents will be a good fit.

 

Anyway, I'm sure there are cases where it is based on real love and compatibility and so on. However, in the times I have witnessed it in real life, it's always between a 50 year old man who is well-to-do and a 20 year old girl who needs"help." I have never seen it with a 20 year old girl with her life together and her independence and he's just her normal boyfriend, or with a broke or unstable 50 year old man and a 20 year old.

[AutumnRose1974]

My dad does this and I think it's gross. It's one thing if you happen to hit it off without knowing their age. But to purposely pursue girls your daughter's age is disturbing IMO.

 

In my case, I didn't know his age. And we both felt a spark from the moment we first met (he delivered mail to my job), and it was one of those scenarios where one (me) tries to play down the attraction at first ('cause I was SHY!). I didn't find out until we talked on the phone the first time, 6 months after we met. He said I'm from your father's generation. Sure, enough, my father is only 14 months older.

 

I've used the age difference this relationship to my advantage - for example, I'm very much a history buff, and I learn things from him that I never would have learned from people my own age.

 

I have seen it a few times and it's generally with a well off 50 year old and a struggling 20 year old. What can I think, besides the fact that he wants a young girl and she sees it as an opportunity, and if she wasn't in a certain disadvantaged position, she'd probably not give him the time of day. So it's a win-win almost business-like arrangement for both.

 

That's why I'm thankful I can pay my own bills, so I don't need him for a sugar daddy. We went out to lunch a month ago, and he went to pick up the little folder with the check in it, and I pulled it out of his hand and insisted on paying, because lunch had been my idea to begin with.

Edited June 21, 2013 by AutumnRose1974

[Ripnet]

I have never seen it with a 20 year old girl with her life together and her independence and he's just her normal boyfriend, or with a broke or unstable 50 year old man and a 20 year old.

 

Maybe you might have walking down the street. I'm 44 but most people think I"m in my early 20's.

[MercuryMorrison1]

I don't really think much of it as long as both parties are consenting adults.