Earth Angel Posted June 18, 2013 Posted June 18, 2013 (edited) Need advice. This is my 1st post on this forum and I could really use your help. Thanks! I was recently dumped after a 11mo relationship. This relationship was rocky since it was my first one as a gay woman and I was coming to accept things and all the changes in my life. During this relationship my ex broke up with me 3 times. She would walk away, cool down and come back but it took it’s toll and I came to expect the breakups. I never quite got past them. So after a week of not speaking (this last breakup) we meet and she hugs me for an hour. She tells me she loves me and is confused. Then she proceeds to tell me she is back with her ex from 10yrs ago (she ran off to her after our breakup) and they are trying to see if things will work out. Suffice it to say I am heartbroken. I know I haven’t been easy and yes I pushed away sometimes (I recently lost a friend of over 25 years since coming out)but I had expected her to be here and now I am alone, and it hurts. Well after this meeting, two days later she tells me to never contact her again and that we can never be friends. She will never be intimate with me again (her words). One thing that was very hard for me during my relationship was her continuous friendship with this ex. This ex dumped her 10yrs ago for her soon to be ex wife. A few times during our relationship my ex even cried over this (which was weird). When he ex recently visited she asked her “why are you dating a straight girl?” I just feel like this ex has held things over us for the past 11 mo. So now they are “dating” and my ex has walked completely away from me. She has a habit of keeping exes as friends but now her only “friend” left is this ex who she has confided all her relationship woes to and now they are dating. My question is this. Do you think this new relationship is going to work? Edited June 18, 2013 by a LoveShack.org Moderator
Hopeinme Posted June 18, 2013 Posted June 18, 2013 Does it matter? Even if it doesnt, do you think it will work out with you ever again?
Author Earth Angel Posted June 18, 2013 Author Posted June 18, 2013 A part of me says yes it would work once all the negativity is removed. We really did get on great. There were just many obstacles, one being my coming out. That was new to me. She has been out 20yrs.
Hopeinme Posted June 18, 2013 Posted June 18, 2013 Hmm. I get what you mean. Somehow, I just think she will not want to overcome the obstacles when this ex is in the picture. You need to think about it carefully. I feel you are setting yourself up for more hurt. I hope you start the healing process soon and things work out for you x
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