Confused_Soul_23 Posted June 18, 2013 Posted June 18, 2013 Was in No Contact for a week and broke it at the weekend after feeling guilty having a one night stand. The week before this when we broke up she didn't know what she wanted and said she did love me but needed time to think. Her decision to break up btw. So I didn't speak to her all week. When I texted her I didn't tell her what I had done I just wanted to see if she was ok. She said she was ok, I asked if we could meet to talk but she said it would confuse things and there is nothing more to say although she did still miss me etc but she's realised its the right thing and we can still be friends. I have gone NC again since this conversation but I don't know how she can go from saying she loves me to just being friends in the space of a week?
Author Confused_Soul_23 Posted June 18, 2013 Author Posted June 18, 2013 I want her back and love her so much, will she come back in time?
Author Confused_Soul_23 Posted June 18, 2013 Author Posted June 18, 2013 I have done that, when she asked about being friends I just didn't reply and not spoke now for 3 days. We broke up a couple of months back too but got back together after a week because she realised she did love me and missed me ( I went NC) .
Sheilalou008 Posted June 18, 2013 Posted June 18, 2013 I have done that, when she asked about being friends I just didn't reply and not spoke now for 3 days. We broke up a couple of months back too but got back together after a week because she realised she did love me and missed me ( I went NC) . I wouldn't put much stock into this way of thinking. It only puts you in a holding pattern and you end up more hurt. Worry about yourself. Do not be friends. Live your life...no matter how hard it may be.
Author Confused_Soul_23 Posted June 18, 2013 Author Posted June 18, 2013 I have kind of accepted its over already. I have started seeing other girls but I still want her even though I shouldn't after what's happened. Maybe she does just need some time to figure herself out, I don't know. I need to just stay NC and see what happens. I have deleted her number and removed/blocked her on all social networking sites so I can't get in touch even if I wanted to.
Chi townD Posted June 18, 2013 Posted June 18, 2013 Dude, you're having guilt because you got some affection from another girl which was foreign to you. And you felt guilty about it, like you were cheating on her. But, here's the rub, you didn't cheat on her. You are not together. You're free to see and spend time with any girl you want. Dude, what you're feeling is normal. But, you have to look at it as you didn't do anything wrong. She wanted this break up, and it's none of her business if you found solace with another girl.
Author Confused_Soul_23 Posted June 18, 2013 Author Posted June 18, 2013 It was a DRUNK one night stand which is why I regret it. Don't even remember her name. It didn't mean anything and I know she won't of done anything like that. I also think she may have GIGS as she has only been with one other person. I on the other hand have done the opposite before we met. We had been together 8/9 months and the longest time before now we had spent apart was probably 3/4 days. I have started dating another girl (not the one night stand) and she seems nice but i still want her back. I know I will find someone else because I have never had a problem getting women. Its just I want her! I haven't made any of the mistakes of begging for her back or anything like that. I have done what she wanted and just gave her space. So there's still a chance right?
Author Confused_Soul_23 Posted June 19, 2013 Author Posted June 19, 2013 Its now been 4 days and I'm struggling. went on a date last night with a girl who is really nice and also good looking too but I still can't take my mind off the ex. If she misses me why is she not trying to get in touch???
swandive83 Posted June 20, 2013 Posted June 20, 2013 How long were you two together? And how long have you been broken up?
Author Confused_Soul_23 Posted June 20, 2013 Author Posted June 20, 2013 We were together 8 months and been broke up now for 3 weeks. The first week she kept contacting me.
Green21 Posted June 20, 2013 Posted June 20, 2013 Its now been 4 days and I'm struggling. went on a date last night with a girl who is really nice and also good looking too but I still can't take my mind off the ex. If she misses me why is she not trying to get in touch??? It's a hard truth, but maybe she needs a lot more time to figure things out. Four days is nothing, in spite of what may have happened the last time around. If and when she misses you, she'll find a way of trying to get back in touch, but these things don't happen in an instant. The whole point of NC is not to guilt-trip her back into missing or speaking to you again, but for you to focus on you and your own self-healing. In the meantime, I'd suggest you find things to do to keep yourself happy. Move on with your life and pursue other interests. Show yourself at least that you can get by without her. Perhaps lay off meeting other women for the time being, because it doesn't sound like it's doing much good. It's also not fair on the third party if your thoughts are elsewhere.
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