sigurpol Posted June 18, 2013 Posted June 18, 2013 Early in May I got a text from an ex-coworker who didn't know I had left my part time position as she was trying to get me to take one of her shifts. I told her that I was done and even if I was around still, I had plans that weekend for a friend coming in. I liked this girl a lot while I worked with her, but I don't date anyone who I work with so I just left it at that. After I left the job I sort of forgot about her. She responded and asked where I was going to be that evening because she was supposed to be around that part of town as well. The weekend comes, we text a little bit more until she mentions I can come by the place she's at to see her, if I want. I did, we hugged and I bought us a round as she told me about work that day, asked about my new job and we basically hung out all night. I got her a cab to get home but she motioned me to come back with her. Nothing sexual, we just sat at her place for a while (her roommates were there for a while too) until later she offered to take me back to my car. Once she dropped me off, I asked her out for dinner and she said yes. So since then, for about a month and a half now, we've gone out probably once a week. Either for drinks, for dinner, or drinks at her place. Around our third date, I went in for a kiss and we were going at it for a while, so we're past that part. No sex or anything at this point, but I can't tell if she's keeping herself at bay, is shy, or waiting for me to really turn it up. For a while, we would text each other probably.. every three days. I normally messaged her first. When I want to make plans, I call her and theres been a few times that we talk on the phone for about an hour or so. One evening, we went to the movies and at one point I put my arm around her. She stared at me and says, "are you serious?"- I was like, uh, yeah. No good? She tells me not to bother because my arm is going to fall alseep in like 5 minutes. But once we're out of the movie, we're flirting and laying together on her couch when we get back to her place. Around that time I just reminded her that I had a good time with her that night and that I'm really liking this thing we have going. She just laughed. I suppose out of nervousness or something. Most of her texts consist of one or two words but I don't nag her for responses or anything. However lately, she's sent me photos of herself at work or whatever she's doing at the moment. We chat more frequently now which is nice. But it's when I suggest specific plans or something to do and I get a non-yes or no answer, if that makes sense? It throws me for a loop. I know it seems like I'm splitting hairs here but sometimes I feel like I'm forcing everything. She mentioned last week about this diner she wanted to go to and I said we should go on Monday as they had good specials there that day. Yesterday I text her about going and she responds with, "hahaha"... that's it. Few hours later I suggested a time and she said she's working late tomorrow, to which I said that wasn't a problem, we can play it by ear if need be. Haven't heard anything since. Has anyone else been with someone like this? I don't mean to pain this person as being really difficult, just something I'm not used to. Like I said, when we see each other, everything is fine. Most of the time now, through texts or whatever, it's better. Do I continue to go with the flow?
undergroundlife13 Posted June 18, 2013 Posted June 18, 2013 I dont know what her problem is. "are you serious" is a really bad sign. And as for her "hahaha" thats just rude. Just ignore her from now on
SuperGeek Posted June 18, 2013 Posted June 18, 2013 Don't even waste 5 more minutes with her. She's not that into you if she's saying that kind of stuff.
Author sigurpol Posted June 18, 2013 Author Posted June 18, 2013 That is some odd behavior. Are you sure she doesnt have any anxiety, or other sorts of issues? It sounds like she may have some social interaction problems.....OR shes doing it on purpose to keep you at bay...IDK. On a diagnostic level, I don't think she has any kind of actual social interaction problems, but she has admitted to being awkward and bad at getting back to people. So I look at it as that. I don't think she would be doing it on purpose? If and when we see each other again, I'm thinking about asking how she feels about all of this. Just to get SOME feedback.
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