itto ogami Posted June 17, 2013 Posted June 17, 2013 Monday Monday...so quick recap: - dated younger woman who works at local bar who repeatedly lied, manipulated and broke up after six months with a facebook message the day she entered into a new "relationship" with guy she was fooling around with behind my back. I deleted her immediately and went into total NO CONTACT. She has sent repeated messages about my importance to her life; missing me; if I hate her; asking if I'll get mad if she came to my music gig; etc. I made the mistake of finding her bf's twitter and got smacked hard with reality, which actually helped me move further forward. And with more than 3 MONTHS NO CONTACT I am doing AWESOME. Yes, I have moments where I miss her and think too much, but these are becoming fewer, less potent. So I made the decision to occasionally revIist the bar where she works as it was my space long before she came. And I know her hours, so i only have dropped by a few times when she wasn't there. Last night I walked in on the day I knew she never worked and...saw her pouring a drink. I froze, processed RUN AWAY, quickly turned around and out, hoping she didn't see me. But my sixth sense about her has been dead on and I thought if she did see me, she'd probly send me a message. Which she did by the time I got to the next bar: - Did you just leave the bar because I'm here? How could you possibly dislike me this much? And you are seriously continuing to ignore me, this is ridiculous. A few minutes later she sent this: - Ok well just to avoid that scenario again I'm working Sundays for the rest of the month. Her level of not-getting-it is spectacular. It's still all about HER. And yes, it was weird seeing her for the first time in over 3 months. What would you do or think about this message?
OrangeSnack Posted June 17, 2013 Posted June 17, 2013 Personally, I would ignore it. You're better off without her. She clearly wants attention so keep on ignoring her because she cheated on you and lied to you. You deserve better.
McGriff Posted June 17, 2013 Posted June 17, 2013 You're tempting fate by going into a bar you know she works at. I would say that this could have been avoided. Just go to a different bar from now on. 1
Author itto ogami Posted June 17, 2013 Author Posted June 17, 2013 Yes, you're right. And I assumed that there would be a chance she'd be there one night because of schedule change, which is why my visits have been few. I hate having to stop going to a place that I actually like going.
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