Makedonka Posted June 17, 2013 Posted June 17, 2013 I was dating this great guy for three months, we spoke about our future together and the exciting time ahead of us. We went away for five days and that was amazing. He meet my two sister and all my closest friends. He made me very happy. We spoke every day, but saw each other twice-three times a week, because we both worked alot. He was my whole world, and I thought I was his. Four days after we come back From our trip together, he ended it. It was a bit of a shock to me and my family and friends. He wasn't a person that talked about his emotions, but to this day ( nearly three months down the track) I still wonder what I did wrong. Every day I feel worthless and think whats wring with me. I don't know what to do.
hill Posted June 17, 2013 Posted June 17, 2013 I was dating this great guy for three months, we spoke about our future together and the exciting time ahead of us. We went away for five days and that was amazing. He meet my two sister and all my closest friends. He made me very happy. We spoke every day, but saw each other twice-three times a week, because we both worked alot. He was my whole world, and I thought I was his. Four days after we come back From our trip together, he ended it. It was a bit of a shock to me and my family and friends. He wasn't a person that talked about his emotions, but to this day ( nearly three months down the track) I still wonder what I did wrong. Every day I feel worthless and think whats wring with me. I don't know what to do. YOU did not do ANYTHING wrong. Don't think that way. If you think that way it makes the process ten times worse. This is all on him, it is possible that he is "scared." Men are afraid of settling down often times and they get freaked out. I understand it was an amazing three months, trust me I have been there. In a short amount of time you connected with him extremely well. Stay busy. Go out with friends, get a new hobby! I'm going through a break up right now too and it helps me to draw or paint because I'm so focused on something and it helps get my mind off everything. Please do yourself a favor and don't blame the end on yourself. It isn't healthy. THERE IS NOTHING WRONG WITH YOU! Don't feel worthless!!! NONE OF THIS IS YOUR FAULT. Do NOT text/call/email/see him. It will be SOOOOO hard. But it just helps so much. Just find DISTRACTIONS!!! Paint, draw, learn a new instrument, go window shopping, etc. I promise, things get better.
aloneinaz Posted June 17, 2013 Posted June 17, 2013 How do you know YOU did anything wrong? Maybe it was him and he just wasn't in the mood to date or be in a relationship. The good news is you only had 3 months invested. Be glad he didn't do this after a year or more! You've had 3 months to get over it. Are you dating? Are you keeping busy? You met this guy, why can't you meet someone else? There's too many options for you to mope about a 3 month relationship. 2
lop98 Posted June 17, 2013 Posted June 17, 2013 (edited) I've been in relationships that lasted years and getting over them took me about 2 weeks, with maybe a couple tears that in many ways were crocodile tears... I was in a relationship of roughly a month and it's been truly the most devastating experience of my life... I invested everything, poured even what I shouldn't have poured into that ****ed up thing. I wish I had an advice to makedonka but I don't, however I know the amount of time her relationship lasted doesn't really make it easier... not one bit. Hang in there... do try meeting other guys, it won't fix anything but you'll start feeling saner eventually... Edited June 17, 2013 by lop98 1
HopelessRomantick Posted June 17, 2013 Posted June 17, 2013 Maybe he realized that there wasn't any chemistry. It's no one's fault especially not yours. It's just the way it is. Try to move on... Date other people!
jabbzy64 Posted June 18, 2013 Posted June 18, 2013 Hey Mel Glad to see you came on here to get advise from the loveshack You are a very kind girl and I know Mr. Right is out there for you. When I talk to you on the phone I can feel the hurt you are going through... as I'm sure you can feel the sadness in me when I talk about my abusive toxic ex-gf. Maybe you just need some change? Do you have an engaging hobby? Do you go out much? Did he actually give you a reason? Are you feeling lack of closure? I feel weird giving the advice when I usually come on here to seek it so much. But the more that time goes by and my ex acts like I never existed in their life.. I realise that these people were just a small chapter in our lives and not the whole book. Mine left me due to having a heap of issues (see my 'omg i dated a bpd' thread to see. Unfortunately, lots of relationships don't work out... Don't beat yourself up over it. 1
Author Makedonka Posted June 18, 2013 Author Posted June 18, 2013 What if the chemistry was there, strongly at the start, don't understand how that just go.
bluegreen Posted June 18, 2013 Posted June 18, 2013 Some people are emotionally cowards or defected or it was a rebound for him or he is one of those hot fast and heavy at beginning but cools off even faster. Whatever it is he showed you his true colors now its up to you to make sure you don't loose sight of that and fall for same c... again when he comes back which could very well happen.
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