fixxit Posted June 17, 2013 Share Posted June 17, 2013 So here is the thing. A few weeks ago I was working as a bouncer in a club and a girl came up and asked for my number. Now usually I don't give out my details because I don't mix work with play, But she didn't look like a regular club wh*re out for a good d***ing, so I gave her my number and we started texting. After some steady back and forth with the girl I realised "hey, this chick is pretty top notch" so I organised a date with her for after she finished work and thought every thing was peachy. This is where the fun begins and my luck plummets faster than the Hindenburg. So we go on the date and it turns out to be a downright disaster! I've been out of the sating game for over a year since I split from my ex so I had no idea what I was doing. We ended up going to play pool (something she confessed to hating later on) until it was time for her to go home and so we said our goodbyes and parted with a hug and a peck on the cheek. Now this is probably where you are assuming the story ends. NOPE! she sends me a text that night saying she had a fun time and that she hopes we can meet up again. So the back and forth continues with texting and such, we add each other on facebook and I start to come on a little bit strong. Nothing serious but I started having to reign myself in at times. Now through a certain sequence of events I end up driving her home one night and she invites me inside to "sleep" being a young, virile 20 year old male I accept. we get inside, we get in bed and my scumbag brain says "hey bro, you haven't had sex in over a year, you're probably rusty as a chain link fence next to the ocean!" with this thought in mind I freeze up and make no attempt to move the situation forward. Apparently she is one of the girls that wants the man to make all the moves so to her apparent, though not expressed, disappointment we actually do end up sleeping. NEXT MORNING! I wake up and look over to find her sleeping next to me nice and peaceful, Then scumbag brain kicks in again! "hey bro, you should totally just kiss her on the cheek and make your way out quietly, it will be cute as ****" so that's what I do... halfway back to my place I realised that I just monumentally screwed up so I wait a few hours and apologise via text. Her replies were frosty to say the least and they stay that way for a while until we meet up again. Alcohol is consumed and she winds up back at my place in my bed. Rinse, lather, repeat! same thing happens and now I look like the biggest limp d*** the world has ever known. now is when I start to panic. I like the girl, quite alot and so I scramble to set up another date, but as luck would have it her ex and old best friend comes to town for a few days so they spend it catching up. While they are doing that I keep texting, getting ignored, looking like I'm nagging and generally coming on stronger than the aroma of a full can of lynx body spray. I know it was exactly the wrong thing to do but I honestly could not stop myself. so here is where we come to the current point in the story. My recent attempts at communication (about a week ago) have been ignored and I am trying to give her space to show that it was accidental. So please, tell me, is there any way to make a comeback from my catastrophic failure or am I simply wasting my time? I am sorry for the novel I've written as well but I feel context is needed to get a proper answer. please let me know if you need more info and thankyou in advance. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
GB25 Posted June 17, 2013 Share Posted June 17, 2013 sounds to me like you ***d that up pretty good She prob lost interest because you were over thinking and trying to be "cute" when you should of been banging her Live and learn buddy..it might not be 100% done but the ignoring over the course of a week is no bueno oh and you need to chill with the eagerness..you said you kept coming on strong several times..relax and next time go for the kill when given the opportunity 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author fixxit Posted June 17, 2013 Author Share Posted June 17, 2013 Figured as much. Thing is, not too many women pay attention to me, so when they do, I kinda get over eager, probably something I should work on. Too bad it has cost me the chance with an awesome chick. Link to post Share on other sites
GB25 Posted June 17, 2013 Share Posted June 17, 2013 like i said, it might not be 100% done but it doesnt look good at all yes work on the coming on to strong thing..its good to show enthusiasm when meeting a new girl, but to a degree you seem like you go all in right off the bat..you need to play it cool, act like you have been here before...even if you want to text and call so bad you need to chill because nothing is more of a turnoff then clingyness right from the jump Link to post Share on other sites
Author fixxit Posted June 17, 2013 Author Share Posted June 17, 2013 (edited) like i said, it might not be 100% done but it doesnt look good at all You seem to imply that there is a little more to go in this little story of mine. Any tips on how to write some semblance of a happy ending? Even if I could scrape together a friendship that I could work with later down the track. Edited June 17, 2013 by fixxit Link to post Share on other sites
SJC2008 Posted June 17, 2013 Share Posted June 17, 2013 This story is a good example of "Put it in her before someone else does". 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author fixxit Posted June 17, 2013 Author Share Posted June 17, 2013 That's what I'm working on. Link to post Share on other sites
undergroundlife13 Posted June 17, 2013 Share Posted June 17, 2013 So shes mad you didnt **** her? Then thats probably all she wanted... Link to post Share on other sites
Author fixxit Posted June 18, 2013 Author Share Posted June 18, 2013 So shes mad you didnt **** her? Then thats probably all she wanted... No doubt. I'm trying to deliver on that. Just need some ideas on how to reconcile with her enough. Did nobody read the question at the end? Link to post Share on other sites
Floridita Posted June 18, 2013 Share Posted June 18, 2013 I'm going to go with no. I know it's harsh, but I think (based off her lack of replies) that sexual attraction has been killed. Once a female is no longer sexually attracted there's really no hope. I'm not saying you can NEVER re-ignite it, but I've never seen it happen. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author fixxit Posted June 18, 2013 Author Share Posted June 18, 2013 I'm going to go with no. I know it's harsh, but I think (based off her lack of replies) that sexual attraction has been killed. Once a female is no longer sexually attracted there's really no hope. I'm not saying you can NEVER re-ignite it, but I've never seen it happen. *sigh* Dating sucks, I should get a dog. But thanks for the responses regardless of how much they were not what I wanted to hear. Link to post Share on other sites
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