atlg8r Posted June 17, 2013 Posted June 17, 2013 I ended a seven-year relationship within the past few months, so I haven't dated for a long time. I'm 34. I met a guy at my church Bible study who seems fantastic. I immediately noticed he was attractive, but in listening to him talk with our group, I definitely love that he's intelligent and well-spoken. We discovered we're from the same part of the country and also love the same college football team in the US. The first Bible class, he stayed after 30 minutes talking to me, walked me to my car, and made a point to say he'd see me next Sunday. He then added me as a Facebook friend and has liked a few of my photos and comments. I private messaged him one time about our football team, and he wrote me back yesterday saying he was sorry he missed it, but it went to his "other messages" folder. He answered my comment and said "See you at church tonight!" At church last night, he specifically asked if I was sitting at the same table and came and sat there. He seemed pretty flirty and smiley at me. I even thought at one point during our Bible study discussion that we should cool it to let everyone else join the conversation, or someone was going to notice our flirtations! Again, he stayed after to talk and walked me to my car. He'd told me his brother/wife had something serious going on, so he was going to his mom's to spend time with all of them. But when I asked him if he needed to go see his family, he said it was okay and that he'd texted them, and they were just hanging out so he had a little time to talk. We really, REALLY seem to click, and I was so hoping he would ask for my number last night! Should I just play it cool and wait to see him again next Sunday? Would messaging him be too forward? Thanks for your insights.
Casablanca Posted June 17, 2013 Posted June 17, 2013 Since you get to see him in person again, I'd wait until you see him again, and if he doesnt ask for you number, just go ahead and ask him out next time you see him.
Author atlg8r Posted June 17, 2013 Author Posted June 17, 2013 Is it safe to assume he is probably interested? I can't imagine a guy spending that much time talking to me and/or postponing family time to talk to me if he wasn't, right?
Casablanca Posted June 17, 2013 Posted June 17, 2013 Is it safe to assume he is probably interested? I can't imagine a guy spending that much time talking to me and/or postponing family time to talk to me if he wasn't, right? He sounds interested to me
clia Posted June 17, 2013 Posted June 17, 2013 I think you should play it cool and allow him to pursue you.
Author atlg8r Posted June 17, 2013 Author Posted June 17, 2013 Thanks for the feedback. My gut is y'all are probably right... I should just wait to see him next weekend or maybe he'll message me via Facebook or something. I'm just excited because he does seem to have an interest, and everything I've seen so far indicates he has a lot of the personality and traits I'm looking for in a potential partner! Plus he's just a very handsome man. I certainly don't want to rush anything. Whenever I date again, I want to take my time and do things the right way. But I am super excited to talk to him again. I enjoy talking to him!
Author atlg8r Posted June 21, 2013 Author Posted June 21, 2013 Thanks for your feedback! Just thought I'd let you know he asked for my phone # via FB on Tuesday & we've been texting back and forth. He asked me to go out tomorrow night, so we have our first date. Thanks for helping me keep my sanity and patience! So excited. 1
MidwestUSA Posted June 21, 2013 Posted June 21, 2013 Yay! I was going to say, he's DEFINITELY interested! Now you know. Have a great time. 1
Author atlg8r Posted June 21, 2013 Author Posted June 21, 2013 He does sound interested but how does a message on fb go to an other message folder? I don't know, but after he said that, I went and checked mine and had like 20 messages from various people and pages.
MidwestUSA Posted June 21, 2013 Posted June 21, 2013 He does sound interested but how does a message on fb go to an other message folder?There is a folder a a lot of us were never aware of. Then I read an article about it and checked. Sure enough, a bunch of old messages from assorted people, many of when I don't know. Part of Facebook's plan to keep us all confused 1
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