bubble_pink Posted June 17, 2013 Posted June 17, 2013 It has been roughly 5-6 years since i was with my ex partner for a relationship duration which lasted a year. My partner spilt with me as they wanted to see other people and i agreed so there was no hardship of falling out even though later on down the line it was brought to my attention that cheating was the reason for the break up. Having left the relationship i felt with all the feelings and come to terms with the reality of a the unhealthy relationship i was in. I asked for space and to be left alone for a while and then if i could manage to be friends i would as my partner kept hassling me to be friends. I moved on and decided non contact was the best route and to start off fresh. This became impossible due to my partner popping up every now and then to see me this was where i worked or voicemails and so on, i tried being polite i tried being honest, rude, ignoring and so on nothing worked. A few years later when i had forgotten the relationship and the constant popping up out of the blue my partner sent me an email to let me know their mother had passed away. We met for a drink and spoke about how she passed my partner then told me of the new relationship they were in and that it was domestic showing me a huge bruise on their back i was shocked i supported my ex through it at a distance and sought the to get help. After this i have been recently contacted via FB by the ex to show that they was engaged i made it clear i want no contact or friendship or any excuse to talk to me - a few months later when i think my ex finally has the message they pop back up but this time they have my phone number.. I am in a relationship and have spoken my partner about the history and events and been honest about the situation because I am worried that all the hassling will upset my partner, my partner has been supportive and has even told the ex to back off and nothing seems to be working. The police can not do anything as there is not enough evidence to press charges all i can do is keep a log book but then the ex has to go out her way to do something that can be deemed as threatening. Any advice?
Ordinaryday Posted June 17, 2013 Posted June 17, 2013 they contact you because you allow it to happen. what is the advice for the internet "don't feed the trolls"? it applies to bitchy exes as well. it is so hard to have a one-sided conversation. block them on facebook. change your mobile number. ignore absolutely all contact from them, and don't respond AT ALL to any of it, no matter what. eventually they will get bored and go away. 1
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