sarah1268 Posted June 17, 2013 Posted June 17, 2013 My ex of nearly four years called me out of the blue last night. It had been almost 2 months since any contact. Our break up was kind of non existent. After a fight he said he wanted to breakup, we both agreed to wait it out of a week or two to see if its what we really wanted. Anyway the night after that he called me to come over to his place to hang out. Turns out he just wanted me there to borrow money from me (he was in a fair bit of debt). After that night, I was so over it I didnt speak to him for two days. Then he texted me asking for money...again! I couldn't believe his nerve so I never call him back and that was the last I spoke to him. Frankly, I was waiting for an apology from him on how he treated me. Anyway last night he called and pretty much just asked what I had been up to and we chatted for about 40 minutes. It was good. He brought up about the money he owes me and hes like my dad will pay it back to you and I'll pay my dad back. Then he also apologised for everything and said I deserve so much better than him. Hes probably right. The thing is, about an hour after the phone call i get txt from him 'It was good speaking to you, I've missed you a lot. I'm truly really sorry of the way I treated you. You deserve a lot better'. Um what? I didnt know what to say to that! So I didnt reply. Can someone tell me what that means? He said he missed, does that mean he wants to be friends or something? I was doing okay until he called and sent that msg, now I miss him even more.....
TaraMaiden Posted June 17, 2013 Posted June 17, 2013 It's breadcrumbs. It does nothing to make you feel better, but it relieves his guilt and makes him feel better. It's for his own relief and benefit, not yours. If you were to respond with something along the lines of - "It's ok, it's in the past, don't worry!" (Which I strongly and emphatically recommend you do NOT do!) He would be back within a week borrowing more money..... Take no notice and do NOT respond to that malarkey schytt. Send him a text saying you expect his dad to give you the money by month end, that would be convenient, thanks. Nothing more. That keeps it business-like, "on Topic" and says all he needs to know. You acknowledge the debt and the promise of repayment. As to anything else, he can pi$$ in the wind. 1
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