Sum12Luv Posted June 17, 2013 Posted June 17, 2013 Hello,everyone. I'm having trouble finding my soulmate. I'm a 25 year old average weight & average looking female. I have tried internet dating... No success. I had 2 really bad relationships. I don't really know how to put myself "out there" because I'm afraid to get hurt and cheated on. I, myself am a loyal person and I wouldn't want to waste my time on someone who treats me like garbage. Everyone around me appears to be shacking up with someone they have known less than a year and are already talking about/having kids. I want to know how to find someone who is on the same page because the past 2 men i dated did not want the same as me and move on or have been stuck on their exes. I wonder if there is something wrong with me. Please help with some advice. I am depressed.
genilyn Posted June 18, 2013 Posted June 18, 2013 just enjoy life while your still single.. wait for the right time your soul mate appears.. let him find you ..
pcplod Posted June 19, 2013 Posted June 19, 2013 I am going to politely take exception with what genilyn is saying. Take it from me, life won't adopt you. You have to adopt life. That requires making an effort. That means taking a risk. So you have been through bad experiences but the only way you can find a good one is to accept that the next one might be good or bad. Use what you have experienced to learn what to do and what not to do, not to give up. It's a cliché, but the statistical probability is that there is someone out there for you, someone who has experienced the same sort of problems as you but who wants to do something about it but is waiting from the right person to come along. You could both end up waiting for each other. Who is going to make the commitment, take the risk? Don't focus on what went wrong, but what you believe is necessary to make it go right. Read up on the subject if you need to. Why take the challenge on, on a completely ad hoc, trail-and-error basis. JUst avoid the material that are ridiculous and only interested in selling the book or whatever. There is enough good stuff out there. Above all, be positive. See it as a long-term ambition that may require action on many fronts. Dump the depression. Take it from me, it does absolutely positive for you, nothing at all. And finally you don't have to be doing 'X' just because everyone else is. There are actually advantages to being single as well as disadvantages. Being in a relationship requires constant nurturing and negotiation. That can get to be pretty exhausting even without you realising it. 1
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