my progress one week on

[this_guy]

okay this is the first post im making, me and my ex were together for 6 years. ( im 23 now and she is 21) everything was perfect, life was good we had many hopes for the future. she was my best friend, my everything we were inseparable ... you get the picture. She decided a week ago she has been unhappy for a month or so and she wants to move out to live with her parents and party and do drugs etc. This was a massive issue between us as she smoked cigarettes and pot and did pills which i did not do. anyways she just left last week and said she didn't feel the same way anymore. I was destroyed ( still am) and crushed . For the first 3-4 days i pleaded her to take me back . She did not care and said she had changed and wanted to be friends. Then a few days ago i came across this forum and it gave me answers to some q's ( grass is greener etc and about NC). however i am still living my life hour by hour and am depressed and lonely constantly i dont want to be with anyone else but her . i miss her i cant stand thinking about her being with another man doing drugs etc but i saw her yesterday when she came over to get her things and said she was loving life. Im trying my best to stay positive, however im crushed inside. im trying my best to remain NC i just have to keep checking up on her fb, i know its unhealthy. I haven't texted her really in last few days maybe twice in 4 days for only essential matters. but i find myself waiting for her to msg me. how do you guys think im doing so far? any help/advice

[this_guy]

i just deleted her on fb it was so hard to do that

[PDunny]

Your doing great!

 

I was in a 7 year relationship with a similar type of person, trust me it will only lead to more and more heartache. Remember, her habits and issues are her problem. She is not a good person for you at all. I know you love her, I love my ex, but bottom line is until things are better, they will repeat the same mistakes constantly. Trust me, been dealing with it for 7 years now.