cra2039 Posted June 17, 2013 Posted June 17, 2013 hey everybody, I met this woman about 2 months ago, at first things where hot and heavy and we ended up hooking up around date 5. The night of, she said we should just be friends, but invited me over to talk about it. I assumed after that we would be in some type of relationship, but much to my surprise she said she wasnt ready for a boyfriend and went NC. (quick backstory on her, it was getting close to finals and she worked 8 hour days with class on top. she said that was why she didnt want a relationship.....) well, fast-forward a couple weeks on NC i break down and shoot her a text asking her about a sold out convention going on this summer that i knew she was interested in. We talked about it for a lil while, and she ended up asking to hang out this weekend. We ended up spending both friday and saturday night together, no sex and no kissing. saturday night we ended up at her friends house playing some drinking games. i noticed she was being really distant, so after i got home i called her out on the mixed signals she is sending. i told her i liked her etc etc, to which i never got a similar reply. she said she was still not ready for a relationship, and thought we could hang out no strings attached.....then went on to say she was ok with casually dating. Im not into "games", nor do i know how to smooth talk a woman into doing what i want. I could use some advice from the women here, could this lady really want to just date after we hooked up? or does this seem like something else. as always, thanks for the advice!!
vegaslady Posted June 17, 2013 Posted June 17, 2013 If you are not into games, then don't play hers. This woman clearly is "just not that into you". When someone likes you, they will not be distant. Move on. 1
D-Lish Posted June 17, 2013 Posted June 17, 2013 If you are not into games, then don't play hers. This woman clearly is "just not that into you". When someone likes you, they will not be distant. Move on. Couldn't agree more! The best gift you can give yourself is to walk away from this girl. "I'm not open to a relationship" means "I'm not open to a relationship with YOU". It's harsh I know- but it's the reality staring you in the face. When the right person comes along, having a hectic schedule won't get in the way. If you really don't want to play games- then don't- walk away. 2
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