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kicking myself for breaking NC


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Just want to vent :love:

 

My ex dumped me around 3 weeks ago. I went NC for the first 2 weeks, but answered a call from him (different number, and I had deleted his. Didn't recognize it) where he offered to pick me up for a few minutes. We rode around, talked, and it was fine. We were together maybe 10 minutes, but he told me 'I love you'. I was immensely shook by this.

 

After this he started contacting me more (LC?), but 2 days later I went out with another guy and we ended up getting friendly. The next day when my ex contacted me I told him what had happened out of guilt. He lost his mind on me and was very angry, said a lot of things about how imagining me with another makes him physically sick, and finally that we would never speak again.

 

I reached out one last time at this point and said - you dumped ME. You ended things with me. Was I supposed to sit at home and knit? I have been taking steps to moving on. This was not what I wanted and is still not what I want - it is what you want. Live with your decision or change it.

 

He did not reply for a few days, but texted me in the early hours of the morning today a simple 'Hey'. I did NOT reply. A few hours later he sent 'I am really unhappy.' I didn't know what to do, but of course I eventually caved and said 'Why?'

 

Basically said he didn't know why but he's unhappy... I ended the conversation quickly.

 

 

 

 

Good RIDDANCE I am telling you - DO NOT BREAK NC. They are really right when they say NOTHING GOOD COMES FROM IT!!!

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Yea, if you break NC you usually get breadcrumbs. It's just not worth it. An ex is an ex for a reason. They dumped us, so we should leave it at that. If they feel as though we are not worth being with, then there's nothing left to talk about. PERIOD.

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I'm glad you got first hand experience and learned from this.

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I know that you're just venting but I wanted to say that I like what you told him even if you broke NC.

 

I reached out one last time at this point and said - you dumped ME. You ended things with me. Was I supposed to sit at home and knit? I have been taking steps to moving on. This was not what I wanted and is still not what I want - it is what you want. Live with your decision or change it.

 

That's really strong. Best of luck keeping up NC this time around, it seems like you'll manage well.

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