i_luh_dat Posted June 17, 2013 Posted June 17, 2013 There's a girl I use to be really good friends with, I developed feelings for her but it didn't work out. She moved away a year ago and we had just been texting and talking over facebook. I attempted to make plans a few times but every time I asked her to do something she had an excuse to why she couldn't. The last time I contacted her was in February. She didn't seem to want to hang out and never initiated any communication, so In April I unfriended her on facebook. A week ago she poked me, I'm assuming she saw that I unfriended her. To be honest I do miss her friendship and would love for things to go back to how they were. Does the poke mean anything? Does she want our friendship back or is she just craving the attention that I once gave her. I'm wondering if I should add her back, message her, poke her, or just keep the no contact.
90s kid Posted June 17, 2013 Posted June 17, 2013 She's just looking for attention. She's used to you initiating contact with her and now that you've unfriended her and haven't contacted her in a few months, she wants your attention again. Sounds like you originally unfriended her because she wasn't showing any interest in your friendship. How does her poking you change that? She hasn't called/emailed/messaged you, right? The reason she friended you was so that she could get your attention without actually communicating with you. By the way, if she really wanted to be Facebook friends with you, she would send you a friendship request. It's about time that she showed some interest in maintaining the friendship instead of you always initiating contact.
Lansing Posted June 17, 2013 Posted June 17, 2013 Continue to ignore her. I had made friends with this girl ages ago... She was on my MSN chat but I felt like I was making all of the effort to check in with her/etc. So, I just deleted her. She got pissed and e-mailed me asking me about it/etc. I explained to her why I did it and said it felt one sided. She appreciated my direct feedback. I kept her deleted but we still kept in touch via e-mail from time to time (I basically stopped initiating for a long while). We still see each other a couple of times a year, it is far from a close friendship but we aren't enemies
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