itto ogami Posted June 19, 2013 Posted June 19, 2013 It's more mature and healing to not be disrespected when somebody who once loved you breaks it off. It sucks, but time heals all and I would not want a person I cared about to think I was a cowardly **** for not at least allowing them to respond or react or whatever to a break-up.
flitzanu Posted June 19, 2013 Posted June 19, 2013 it's pretty unrealistic to expect someone to behave a certain way just because you do. just because you know what the "respectful" and "mature" thing to do is, doesn't mean that it is the only way people are allowed to live. i think it's disrespectful for hot girls to date douchebags, but they still seem to do it anyway, regardless of me believing it is just wrong and immature.
itto ogami Posted June 20, 2013 Posted June 20, 2013 Well if you think you don't have the right to "respect" then yeah, you'll end up with the kind of people who might be prone to cowardice or disrespect. And you have the option to have an opine on how they treat you and if you still want them in your life as friends, which does happen.
Maleficent Posted June 20, 2013 Posted June 20, 2013 Communication is evolving. Years ago breaking up with someone over the phone was unthinkable. In the end, the dumped will always look for something to blame on the dumper and usually, how the dumping happened is the simplest option. 1
Author tcd421 Posted August 6, 2013 Author Posted August 6, 2013 Whoa. Several times? Do elaborate... I don't know if 3 times would qualify as several, but each time i never saw it coming.
SoonMyFriend Posted August 6, 2013 Posted August 6, 2013 I get the argument that breaking up is breaking up no matter how you slice it, but I was just dumped via a text and it was awful and everyone I talked to all argeed it was a terrible way to do it, and even he acknowledged it was terrible. He said a buddy of his told him most girls prefer being dumped via the phone because it's a waste of their time to do it in person. He chose text because he thought the phone was worse than text. In the end - he did come over after I asked him to because I couldn't handle it via text. I mean, my hands were shaking first of all so texting back was a problem. Haha. I also had a million questions and he agreed to come talk it over. I'm a talker and a question-asker so I needed to see him. The hardest part of face to face was saying goodbye, I didn't want him to leave. What's funny though, is in a way I think it's better the dumping starting via text. This way, when he made his way over I knew what was coming. I knew it was going to suck. Whereas, had he said "hey I'm going to come over to your place tonight" I would have spent the day excited to see him, and then have it all crash down. But still, despite that I hate that he tried to take the easy way out. Just man up and do it to my face.
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