Author iceisles Posted October 18, 2004 Author Posted October 18, 2004 Got another one: My ex is talking to you.
Mollyanna Posted October 18, 2004 Posted October 18, 2004 Iceisles? I don't know what that one means. Can you explain? Chico: hmmm i think maybe you have something there. Maybe I should be the one that puts up no contact now... although that would be hard. X and I went out last night and had the most fabulous time ever. Friday night I was at his house with his kids and his boss and his wife too. We have been acting for months like we never broke up. But boy was he mad when a guy I met last week came up to me last night at the bar and then sent a drink over to me. X needs to make up his mind what he wants or he WILL lose me. I don't want him to lose me, because I love him - but he isn't leaving me many choices here...
chicothechimp Posted October 18, 2004 Posted October 18, 2004 Yeah, I agree with you... this dude needs to make up his mind how he is going to steer his life and then make a decision and then have himself held accountable/responsible for what he decides. Sadly, there are many people out there who wants the fun/sex/semi-intimacy/security of marriage without the responsibility and sacrifice that marriage needs to survive and thrive. I hope that you have the wisdom you need to know what is what in your present situation, Mollyanna! Hang in there! All people who get married admit two things: one, things change and people change (*sometimes only one of the persons in the couple changes significantly... but that still radically affects the relationship), thus, change is inevitable; two, marriage is grounded on commitment/loyalty even when there are those seasons of not feeling that the love is tangible deep in a person's heart. Feelings can be re-experienced and re-created where they have gone dim. But it is commitment that rides through those seasons when feelings are at an all-time low. Chico
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