Jump to content

I hate Myself


While the thread author can add an update and reopen discussion, this thread was last posted in over a month ago. Want to continue the conversation? Feel free to start a new thread instead!

Recommended Posts

Posted

So i know the other day i made this post about my Ex but i was very stubborn about taking your tough love advice.

 

Welp Today is the worst day of my life. I don't feel like i deserve to exist on this planet. I know it sounds pathetic but i'm so lost.

 

I confessed to my Ex about how i feel and got a unpleasent suprise.

All those "signs" i thought she was giving me was just her way of being friendly.

She only wanted to make sure i was ok.

She does not want a relationship, she wants nothing to do with me in a romantic way.

Those are her words.

 

She told me she is dating and sleeping with other men.

OMG that hurt so bad because i've been holding myself for her( Not like i have women lined up but ya)

 

She only wanted a friendship that's it and that's all.

She told me after what i put her through there's no way shed give me another chance.

She said she's been over me for a while now.

 

GOD i feel so dumb and weak.

I hate myself for thinking she still loved me.

 

Oh ya and she said " I don't Love you anymore"

 

You have no idea how much that hurt.

As i sat on the phone i realized i've truly lost her forever.

 

I don't know what to do.

I love her so much but it's to late now.

 

What do i do ?

How do i stay strong ?

Why would she do this to me ?

 

(I'm balling in tears as i write this)

 

I feel like i'm a horrible person and will never meet anyone.

I feel like i'm a failure.

 

Also i could tell she was with someone while we were talking on the phone.

I could hear someone laughing in the background ( Maybe her new boo)

God i know i sounded so pathetic, Trying to reason with her.

Posted

I'm sorry that happened, but now you know the truth, and the only thing you can really do is start healing from the hurt. Breakups are so hard, especially in a situation like yours - when one person cares more than the other. This has happened to me in the past and it really hurts.

 

But, the good news is you WILL heal from this. It hurts like hell right now, but as time goes on, I promise it will hurt less.

 

Don't automatically assume that YOU did something wrong, she may have just fallen out of love, or thinks she has better chemistry with one of the other guys she's dating.

  • Like 2
Posted

Take the first step and accept shes gone. Better yourself for it. Learn from the mistakes you made with her and apply this to your next relationship. Get back out there on the hunt and find the next lucky lady who gets to fall in love with this new and improved MobileMan :p

  • Like 1
Posted (edited)

From the way you described your ex and how she treated you, in your previous thread I'm not sure that this is a bad thing. I get your pain but now you are free to move on and find someone who treats you better.

 

Meanwhile you need to go no contact and grieve and heal. The pain will go away but if you keep interacting with her it will take that much longer.

 

Stay strong. We've all been there man.

Edited by Imajerk17
  • Like 3
Posted
I could tell she was with someone while we were talking on the phone. I could hear someone laughing in the background ( Maybe her new boo)

 

That shows that she is disrespectful, for letting someone listen in on a convo that important.

 

3.5 billion women in the world, figure out how to move on. I guarantee you'll get over her eventually. And stop falling so hard for any woman. Women of 2013 are not worthy of that depth of love, unfortunately.

  • Like 1
  • Author
Posted
I'm sorry that happened, but now you know the truth, and the only thing you can really do is start healing from the hurt. Breakups are so hard, especially in a situation like yours - when one person cares more than the other. This has happened to me in the past and it really hurts.

 

But, the good news is you WILL heal from this. It hurts like hell right now, but as time goes on, I promise it will hurt less.

 

Don't automatically assume that YOU did something wrong, she may have just fallen out of love, or thinks she has better chemistry with one of the other guys she's dating.

 

God this sucks :(

  • Author
Posted
That shows that she is disrespectful, for letting someone listen in on a convo that important.

 

3.5 billion women in the world, figure out how to move on. I guarantee you'll get over her eventually. And stop falling so hard for any woman. Women of 2013 are not worthy of that depth of love, unfortunately.

 

Well what the hell do i do now ?

  • Author
Posted
From the way you described your ex and how she treated you, in your previous thread I'm not sure that this is a bad thing. I get your pain but now you are free to move on and find someone who treats you better.

 

Meanwhile you need to go no contact and grieve and heal. The pain will go away but if you keep interacting with her it will take that much longer.

 

Stay strong. We've all been there man.

 

Ya but i've never been the "Ladies Man" persay.

I mean i can get girls but i've always been the relationship type

and that takes time.

I feel like i'll never get over her :(

Posted
Well what the hell do i do now ?

 

Short term - spend time with friends, do whatever you want to do to get your mind off of it.

Posted
That shows that she is disrespectful, for letting someone listen in on a convo that important.

 

3.5 billion women in the world, figure out how to move on. I guarantee you'll get over her eventually. And stop falling so hard for any woman. Women of 2013 are not worthy of that depth of love, unfortunately.

 

Ah, how refreshing, yet another woman-bashing post.

Posted
Ya but i've never been the "Ladies Man" persay.

I mean i can get girls but i've always been the relationship type

and that takes time.

I feel like i'll never get over her :(

 

Time heals all wounds my friend. Give it time, and start looking for other fish in the sea. Everything you own of hers or shes given you, put it away in a box and stash it in a deep corner in the closet or something. Eventually, you'll learn that those experiences helped build you into who you are and you can look back on it and be proud how much you've learned coming out of it.

 

As someone who got out of a 4 year relationship, it gets better.

  • Like 1
  • Author
Posted
Short term - spend time with friends, do whatever you want to do to get your mind off of it.

 

Easier said than done

Posted
Ya but i've never been the "Ladies Man" persay.

I mean i can get girls but i've always been the relationship type

and that takes time.

I feel like i'll never get over her :(

 

Dont' rush into a new relationship right away....give yourself time to heal. Hang out with your friends, keep yourself busy.

 

You will eventually get over her, but it won't happen overnight. I totally agree with the 'no contact'....if you try to stay in contact with her, it will honestly just make you feel worse.

  • Like 1
  • Author
Posted
Time heals all wounds my friend. Give it time, and start looking for other fish in the sea. Everything you own of hers or shes given you, put it away in a box and stash it in a deep corner in the closet or something. Eventually, you'll learn that those experiences helped build you into who you are and you can look back on it and be proud how much you've learned coming out of it.

 

As someone who got out of a 4 year relationship, it gets better.

 

I agree. Also while we were on the phone i kind of was trying to convince her i'd change I KNOW ITS BAD. but i couldnt help it. & when she started telling me about this new guy i asked all questions i didnt need the answer to like if he was better in bed and if his slong was bigger. Yep all answers were yes. Basically hes better than me GOD I FEEL LIKE SHIIIIIITTTT

  • Author
Posted
Dont' rush into a new relationship right away....give yourself time to heal. Hang out with your friends, keep yourself busy.

 

You will eventually get over her, but it won't happen overnight. I totally agree with the 'no contact'....if you try to stay in contact with her, it will honestly just make you feel worse.

 

Ya i just don't get how someone can just not care about a person they supposedly loved so much and spent everyday with.

Well she did say i made her life a living hell

 

So i'm guessing i was pretty bad :(

 

God i appreciate the advice but i cant help but think negative about myself

Posted
I agree. Also while we were on the phone i kind of was trying to convince her i'd change I KNOW ITS BAD. but i couldnt help it. & when she started telling me about this new guy i asked all questions i didnt need the answer to like if he was better in bed and if his slong was bigger. Yep all answers were yes. Basically hes better than me GOD I FEEL LIKE SHIIIIIITTTT

 

You just need to cut out contact with her 100% do what I told you about the box stuff..then start your search for someone better.

  • Like 1
Posted
I agree. Also while we were on the phone i kind of was trying to convince her i'd change I KNOW ITS BAD. but i couldnt help it. & when she started telling me about this new guy i asked all questions i didnt need the answer to like if he was better in bed and if his slong was bigger. Yep all answers were yes. Basically hes better than me GOD I FEEL LIKE SHIIIIIITTTT

 

He's NOT better than you. He's just different to her, that's all. She would probably say that regardless of his peensize, just to save face. She wouldn't admit it if yours was bigger and you're better in bed.

Posted
she started telling me about this new guy i asked all questions i didnt need the answer to like if he was better in bed and if his slong was bigger. Yep all answers were yes.

 

Again, a woman that would so directly tell you those things is just trash. You're all upset about not having a piece of trash in your life anymore.

 

Not convinced the OP is genuine now.

  • Like 1
  • Author
Posted
You just need to cut out contact with her 100% do what I told you about the box stuff..then start your search for someone better.

 

ok thank you

  • Author
Posted
He's NOT better than you. He's just different to her, that's all. She would probably say that regardless of his peensize, just to save face. She wouldn't admit it if yours was bigger and you're better in bed.

 

Hard to believe but thanks

Posted

All comments aside that went other ways, I know how you feel. First, say "(Name) is gone." Second, get out of the house after you have had a day of feeling depressed. Third, do something in terms of exercise in order to clean all the bad stuff out of your mind. And keep doing that, it WILL make you feel better.

 

Wake up everyday and repeat this process. That is the only way.

Posted

TaraMaiden, where are you???

 

Sorry pal, but she's pure TRASH.

 

Consider yourself lucky.

 

She is someone elses PROBLEM now.

  • Like 2
Posted

Don't listen to these guys ^^^^^, "time heals all wounds" that's total BS!! "Hang out with friends"... this is just masking the work you need to do until you're by yourself again??

 

Work heals all wounds and you have A LOT of work to do!!!! Carefully read the guide below, pay attention to the grieving phase. You can't just bottle your emotions hoping they'll go away.

 

http://www.loveshack.org/forums/breaking-up-reconciliation-coping/breaks-breaking-up/351364-my-guide-how-get-over-them-fast

Posted

Mobile, I have been going through a similar situation. She found a new guy who is better than me blah blah blah etc etc etc.

 

The way I cope .....

 

1) I know I am far better

2) I am fixing the mistakes I made with her

3) I have goals, plans and dreams of how my life will be improved without her

 

Look at the benefits, not the downside.

 

You lost a girlfriend, it sucks. She's with another guy, that sucks worse. But bottom line, you seem like a far better person than she deserves.

  • Like 1
Posted (edited)
Don't listen to these guys ^^^^^, "time heals all wounds" that's total BS!! "Hang out with friends"... this is just masking the work you need to do until you're by yourself again??

 

Work heals all wounds and you have A LOT of work to do!!!! Carefully read the guide below, pay attention to the grieving phase. You can't just bottle your emotions hoping they'll go away.

 

http://www.loveshack.org/forums/breaking-up-reconciliation-coping/breaks-breaking-up/351364-my-guide-how-get-over-them-fast

 

 

@OJ

 

Respectfully, I disagree. Although I do agree you can't "bottle" your emotions: Let them out!! Hurt, cry. Then run, and quickly! many more good people out there. No use in lamenting.

 

I disagree, time DOES INDEED heal all wounds.

 

TaraMaiden???

Edited by BrokenHeartedSavior
×
×
  • Create New...