daddy87 Posted June 16, 2013 Posted June 16, 2013 Since my ex broke up with me over a year ago i cant stop telling her that i still love her every time i see her...But is that a bad thing if i want her to get back with me?
Hopeinme Posted June 16, 2013 Posted June 16, 2013 Yes. This is what you SHOULD not be doing. It is just going to push her further away and you have to keep NC. This might give her the opportunity to miss you and she might/might not come back. But you have to stop telling her you love her. I 1
TaraMaiden Posted June 16, 2013 Posted June 16, 2013 Since my ex broke up with me over a year ago i cant stop telling her that i still love her every time i see her...But is that a bad thing if i want her to get back with me? Over a year ago - ?! So tell me, how has telling her you love her, every time you see her, worked for you? Still your ex-? There's a clue there somewhere.... She isn't coming back. She will never come back. if she hasn't made any indication whatsoever that she wants you back - she is keeping you hanging on as a means of pumping up her ego, and making herself feel all glowing and wonderful. But not with you. Still - your ex. I'd seriously - SERIOUSLY - quit while you are so far behind. 4
aloneinaz Posted June 16, 2013 Posted June 16, 2013 TARA said it all but I had to add... DAMN.. a year ago and your still holding out hope? Man, what if you were killed in a car accident and before the lights went out you told yourself, holy cow, i wasted the last year of my life mooning over a girl that didn't want me....
Author daddy87 Posted June 16, 2013 Author Posted June 16, 2013 Not worked for me at all, infact it gets me more frustrated aand angry especially she said she don't feel that way for me anymore yet she like spending time with me like a couple....So yeah i think shes using me to boost her ego. Not long ago i had a massive argument with her which was over this and now shes gone back to cold to me again, but i got a feeling shes either waiting for me to beg her and apologize but nothing will change anyway. I just don't know how i can learn not to give a **** about her anymore :/
escafeld Posted June 16, 2013 Posted June 16, 2013 I just don't know how i can learn not to give a **** about her anymore :/ That's the easy part...learn to turn the 'love' switch OFF! As others have said this girl isn't coming back..so you have to approach things from that precept, imagine all the women you encounter during the course of the day-do you pine for all of them? Of course not! You have to put your ex in that category, you don't have to hate here, you just need to be ambivalent about her. That means, no more cosy meets, no more chatting on the phone, no more telling her you love her..after all that isn't how you'd behave towards a total stranger. This might all sound harsh, and I know your g'f will have many redeeming qualities that you keep referring to mentally..but you need to practice insulating yourself from those feelings, start slowly and over time you'll feel better..it's a bit like being on a diet, you don't reach your target weight overnight! Good luck 2
TaraMaiden Posted June 16, 2013 Posted June 16, 2013 It' simple: Read the No Contact Guide in my signature. The Guide itself is post #1. The remainder of the thread makes for good reading. Do not be friend-zoned (as she has done to you) because it just chews your heart up, over and over and over again. And your task is as fruitless as that of Sysiphus. Give up, go No Contact, and quit being her one-person fan-club.
Author daddy87 Posted June 16, 2013 Author Posted June 16, 2013 Thank you for your advice:) i have been getting alot better recently, its just when my emotions plays up but i know i get there because id rather no speak to her and feel better than talking to her knowing its not getting anywhere
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