source24 Posted June 16, 2013 Posted June 16, 2013 Background: We broke up about 8 months or so ago, not really due to issues or incompatibility between us, but more because of circumstances. We started dating while we were both at University, and we were there for over a year together. Then we both had to leave and head out to separate places which ensued in Long Distance. There were definitely some great moments in long distance, like when I saved up my Summer salary to get us a trip to NYC for our anniversary or when I hacked her computer and wrote random letters on her desktop. Just silly stuff. But for the most part, long distance put a huge strain on the relationship, we tried hard but I am a med student and she is an international business student, so both of our schedules are really hectic. The end wasn't horrible, but it was certainly a bumpy breakup. It was hard for both of us to let go, I think because we felt like in these new places that were so hard, at least we had each other. But eventually, she decided to cut the cord, and we went into no contact. It's been about 8 months now, and I have been focusing on my career, and trying to better myself, and to keep myself away from anything that really has to do with her. From time to time I remember her, and I am fine with that, I just don't let it overwhelm me. Today, she broke no-contact. Here is what she sent: "I'm sorry I've waited so long to contact you. But I was trying to give us both the space we needed. I saw your new job and I'm so proud of your accomplishments. I wonder how your year has been and if you've began to mend parts of your life like the way I've been trying. I am currently in Europe so I cannot call right now. I don't want you to think I've forgotten about our friendship or that I no longer care about how you are. I've been trying to wait until I can call you, but I am overwhelmed with sadness and sometimes tears every time I try to think of what words I would say (honestly, I'm crying as I write this). But I feel as though if I wait longer, you will feel like I have forgotten or am insensitive, but I'm not. If you need more time, I understand, but I would at least like to know that you're doing ok. Thanks." Honestly, at this point I am not sure how to respond. I am thinking of just saying that I am okay, and I hope she is fine as well, and not to fret over things too much and to enjoy her time in Europe and that if she wants she can call whenever she is ready. It took me a long time to accept the breakup and to actually get over her. And at this point I just want the best for her. I am not trying to get back with her, or to go through the whole long distance thing again. But I do care about her deeply, and I want to show that support without sending any other messages. Thoughts?
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