is this friend with benefits?

[undergroundlife13]

Before you even say it, i know its not a smart arrangement. I would love opinions though because it has me baffled. Ive known him since i was 14, im 21 and hes 23. Acouple years back, we had a 2 week fling and it fizzled out. Then september of last year i ran into him and his current girlfriend. We all talked and everything was completely fine. The next day he added me on facebook, then she did too. he started messaging me and then gave me his number and that led to texting. He began by saying he wasnt happy with his girlfriend and talked of wanting to hangout and we texted constantly for like 3 days. I told him i wasnt comfortable hanging out because he had a girlfriend. He broke up with her, and being that I was friends with both of them i could see it. So i stupidly agreed to hangout.

 

So we hungout, and talked about life for hours and caught up, then we had sex. It became a regular thing about 2-3 times a week. I liked him, which was dumb of me. Then he deleted me on facebook, i confronted him about it and he told me he got back with his girlfriend. I was a little upset, but understood. He then came back a week later, they were done again. I stupidly gave in, and we hungout for 12 hours and didnt have sex until the end of the night. He then deleted me again and i told him off and ended things for good.

 

Then i got into a relationship, he chased me for the whole almost 7 months of my relationship. I always turned him down. We did hangout once, but there was no contact of any kind. He was apparently done with his girlfriend for a while. My relationship ended and i stupidly contacted him, and he begun telling me how hes always liked me blah blah blah. So we hungout for a month, no sex or kissing because i was still so hurt by my ex.Eventually we had sex, then he dissapeared again (im assuming he went back to her) So then he texted me a month later, we hungout no sex or kissing. Then we hungout on thursday.

 

This is where im extremely confused. He acted way different from before, very interested in what i had to say and opening up to me about his life (his moms in jail bunch of crazy stuff) He complimented me, and we hungout for a good 3 hours. Then he staryed caressing me and i gave in, he did foreplay on me for like 30 min (i wasnt doing anything to him) then we walked to his car and he tried to hold my hand (i pulled mine away) he tried to hold my hand again in his car which i rejected. Then he did some more foreplay on me and actually went down on me! (first time hes done that) and you get the picturr we had sex.

 

He was very into it called me pretty blah blah. It was all so different. Afterwards he kissed me passionatly and looked me in my eyes, but i looked away. He kept asking about my upcoming job interview, told me i should visit his work. When he dropped me off he gave me the most loving kiss, then said we needed to hangout soon and i agreed. The next day he texted me have a good day!!!

i know fwb is most likely just sex, but it seems like theres more to it, but he keeps going back to his ex, even though she is horrible to him (trust me i know she is after one of their break ups she got with his best friend) I almost just want to tell him to lose my number because i dont know what to make of it.

 

Opinions?

Edited June 17, 2013 by a LoveShack.org Moderator

[melodicintention]

FWB isn't complicated. Sorry I didn't read your post, but FWB means Friends who have benefits, and benefits = sex. So if you are bonking your friend and there is no committment, it's FWB. Simple as that.