Going through an intense and difficult issue, .

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It's kind of crazy. At first the relationship was very intense and romantic and I thought I found the one. But then I started to come to a harsh realization that I might have been dating a narcissist.

 

I've noticed when issues began to arise, she was quick to dump them on me and walk away. She loved the romance, the attention, admiration, adoration, promise of ideal love and hope that she had found "the one" who will tolerate all her issues without question. When I began to question her , differ with her , or make demands, her "weirdness" escalated. She used manipulation in order to get me to stop bringing up issues . Dumping everything on me saying, It is my fault. I have something wrong with me! I'm not good enough. I'm not manly enough.

 

Her love seemed to be immature, self centered and needy. She searched for unconditional love, but was unwilling to return it. I felt so lost. I started to question her behavior whether it was dancing on guys, seeking attention, ignoring me, she got defensive which in turn lead to more manipulation in order to seek validation to no matter what she did. she expected me to tolerate her frivolous escapades , the love for attention, her indecisive nature, commitment problems, avoidance issues, and anything other issues she had.

 

Throughout our 10month relationship she often cut me off, abandoned me for an abusive ex( which I spent practically 8 months helping her get over) , And as victim to what I think was her personality, I believed it was somehow my fault that she treated us with such contempt. I wondered what I did to deserve such cruel treatment. I became so conditioned to her that I would take her back on multiple occasion after she left me for her ex.

 

She was like a monkey swinging from one man to another. Her ex treated her horribly and manipulated her in so many ways and I guess I showed her true love, unconditional love. And despite the amount of pain she put me through I always took her back. I understand that she has been using me as a doormat and I can honestly say I did nothing wrong in the relationship. Recently, she finally committed into a relationship after 8 months of me helping her get over her previous relationship and one month later she cuts it off and gives the excuse that she's young and she wants to be a free spirit and date other people. I let her go once again, and she came back in a matter of days. As you probably could already tell she did it once again. Understand , that I am shocked because I've never done anything , but scarf iced my life for this girl and honestly I came into this relationship with 0 baggage and an open heart. I feel like she never even gave the relationship a chance at all and Im afraid I fell in love with an illusion. I know these type of women are extremely shady and challenging. One day she loves me, two days later she doesn't know if we are right for one another. She seems to always brainwash me by saying all these beautiful things, taking me places, or actually putting effort in for a little while, but then quits. Its been a week since things ended and I'm copping to the best of my ability. It just baffles me and I cant wrap my head around how everything I knew was a lie, and it kills me inside that she doesn't even care.

 

Sorry for the long read thanks

[J_L_C]

It's kind of crazy. At first the relationship was very intense and romantic and I thought I found the one. But then I started to come to a harsh realization that I might have been dating a narcissist.

 

I've noticed when issues began to arise, she was quick to dump them on me and walk away. She loved the romance, the attention, admiration, adoration, promise of ideal love and hope that she had found "the one" who will tolerate all her issues without question. When I began to question her , differ with her , or make demands, her "weirdness" escalated. She used manipulation in order to get me to stop bringing up issues . Dumping everything on me saying, It is my fault. I have something wrong with me! I'm not good enough. I'm not manly enough.

 

Her love seemed to be immature, self centered and needy. She searched for unconditional love, but was unwilling to return it. I felt so lost. I started to question her behavior whether it was dancing on guys, seeking attention, ignoring me, she got defensive which in turn lead to more manipulation in order to seek validation to no matter what she did. she expected me to tolerate her frivolous escapades , the love for attention, her indecisive nature, commitment problems, avoidance issues, and anything other issues she had.

 

Throughout our 10month relationship she often cut me off, abandoned me for an abusive ex( which I spent practically 8 months helping her get over) , And as victim to what I think was her personality, I believed it was somehow my fault that she treated us with such contempt. I wondered what I did to deserve such cruel treatment. I became so conditioned to her that I would take her back on multiple occasion after she left me for her ex.

 

She was like a monkey swinging from one man to another. Her ex treated her horribly and manipulated her in so many ways and I guess I showed her true love, unconditional love. And despite the amount of pain she put me through I always took her back. I understand that she has been using me as a doormat and I can honestly say I did nothing wrong in the relationship. Recently, she finally committed into a relationship after 8 months of me helping her get over her previous relationship and one month later she cuts it off and gives the excuse that she's young and she wants to be a free spirit and date other people. I let her go once again, and she came back in a matter of days. As you probably could already tell she did it once again. Understand , that I am shocked because I've never done anything , but scarf iced my life for this girl and honestly I came into this relationship with 0 baggage and an open heart. I feel like she never even gave the relationship a chance at all and Im afraid I fell in love with an illusion. I know these type of women are extremely shady and challenging. One day she loves me, two days later she doesn't know if we are right for one another. She seems to always brainwash me by saying all these beautiful things, taking me places, or actually putting effort in for a little while, but then quits. Its been a week since things ended and I'm copping to the best of my ability. It just baffles me and I cant wrap my head around how everything I knew was a lie, and it kills me inside that she doesn't even care.

 

Sorry for the long read thanks

 

This sounds very similar to my ex who also had NPD. Have you considered possibly BPD as well? I only suggest that because I suffer from BPD and it sounds closely similar.

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Im pretty sure she is one of those, as I believe her father suffers with some sort of bipolar disorder. I've mentioned getting help in an attempt to save the relationship, however she doesn't think she has a problem. In her mind, I'm just not good enough or I'm not what she's looking for.