lulzatyourface Posted June 16, 2013 Posted June 16, 2013 Two and a half years ago, I met a guy who was really into me. We hung out once, I gave him my number, and we texted a ton. However, he kept on flaking on me for our next "hang out", tried to cause drama between us, etc. So, finally, I asked him to please leave me alone, and we haven't spoken since. There was no real relationship whatsoever. Over a month ago, I met his younger brother at a party. I had no idea they were related, at the time. We have amazing chemistry, and I see a real potential future with him. Now that things between us are getting more serious, I'm not sure what to do. His brother has yet to find out that he's dating me. (He lives in another state, and has his own girlfriend.) I'm not dating his brother out of revenge. I sincerely like him. And it's not like the older brother is pining after me, or something similar. So, what do I do? Do I get in contact with the older brother again and tell him? Do I wait until the younger brother tells him? Thanks!
2sure Posted June 16, 2013 Posted June 16, 2013 As long as the younger brother knows every detail, it's fine. There was one date. Some flaking, some drama. The younger brother knows him and well tell him when he thinks he should. It would be wrong of you to cross that boundary for him. Did you have sex with the older brother? If so, does the one you are dating now know? That's a whole other can of worms. 1
Author lulzatyourface Posted June 16, 2013 Author Posted June 16, 2013 As long as the younger brother knows every detail, it's fine. There was one date. Some flaking, some drama. The younger brother knows him and well tell him when he thinks he should. It would be wrong of you to cross that boundary for him. Did you have sex with the older brother? If so, does the one you are dating now know? That's a whole other can of worms. No, I didn't do anything sexually with him. We didn't even kiss. 1
happywithlife Posted June 16, 2013 Posted June 16, 2013 I would be honest with him and tell him just that: I went on one date with your older brother - nothing physical happened at all. We texted for a while after the date, but it eventually fizzled out. If he's a good person, he'll understand and be fine with it. If he's not fine with it, then its a red flag.
Cutiepie1976 Posted June 16, 2013 Posted June 16, 2013 Tell the brother you're now dating what you said in the OP. Other than that, don't worry about it. How did you discover they were brothers?
Author lulzatyourface Posted June 16, 2013 Author Posted June 16, 2013 Tell the brother you're now dating what you said in the OP. Other than that, don't worry about it. How did you discover they were brothers? He told me his last name, but I figured it was a coincidence, since they look nothing alike. Then he started mentioning his older brother, and finally, his name, and that's when I knew.
ChessPieceFace Posted June 17, 2013 Posted June 17, 2013 The sooner you can be honest, the better off you will be for a LTR. 1
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