jncapital1 Posted June 16, 2013 Posted June 16, 2013 I met this wonderful, amazing woman three months ago and it was like lightening struck us both. We connected on so many levels and it was just different than anything I had ever imagined. We both said a lot of wonderful things to each other and were excited about the future. She has been a widow for almost three years and has two lovely girls. She wanted to throw us together and see how we were together, which we did and it was wonderful. We spent a lot of time playing, cooking dinner, reading with the girls and having fun. It was truly wonderful. Around mother's day, which it turns out would have been her anniversary, she became emotional and sad. At this time, she began to become less open with her feelings for me, say less sweet things and we stopped having sex. She also told me she wasn't as attracted to me anymore. We still had quite a few great nights in the next two weeks but then we were to meet for drinks on a Friday and she stood me up. I sent her one email and haven't heard from her since. Another possible factor. I am confused in my career and just had some financial hardship. This caused me to lose some confidence in myself, which I know isn't attractive. I have no idea why we broke up. It could be any number of things but I really think what we had was wonderful and had promise. I haven't contacted her but I want to at some point. I want her back. My plan is to wait a few more weeks and contact her. So do second chances really happen? And should I give this a shot?
totallylost5040 Posted June 16, 2013 Posted June 16, 2013 Do it at your own peril. Just warning you. Bad things tend to happen. Just an FYI. Ignorance is bliss. Trust me.
totallylost5040 Posted June 16, 2013 Posted June 16, 2013 Same kinda thing happened to me. A month later she has moved on. And made out with the guy she's dating now in front of my face. She hit me up a few weeks ago asked to see how I was doing and asked to meet up and share the pics we had from vacation. There's no way I'm giving her the pics. Every time we see one another its negative so I don't need that anymore and I'm getting rid of her as a friend because that's how we started dating. Not gunna be cool with her. Friends don't do that to friends period. In short I would just stay away. Trust me it'll save you a lot of anger and resentment.
Author jncapital1 Posted June 16, 2013 Author Posted June 16, 2013 Sorry to hear about your particular situation but I'm not sure mine is similar to yours. I'm pretty confident another guy wasn't involved in our break up. My guess is it has to do with her grieving continuing, we moved too quickly, my current financial situation, which isn't good or maybe she just decided she didn't think we were good long-term. Since she never told me the reasons, I have no idea what happened but since I care for her and think it might not really be about me, I think I want to contact her at some point and ask for a second chance.
totallylost5040 Posted June 16, 2013 Posted June 16, 2013 It's all the same if they lose attraction. The guy wasn't in the picture till after she broke up with me dude. Just sayin if she doesn't think y'all were good long term there may not be a good chance. You can go ahead and do it. But if she said she's lost attraction then it was too much too soon. Which was my case. Either way. I wish you good luck. Keep us updated.
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