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Please DO NOT tell me to move on. Just DON'T. I can't. So don't.

Please DO NOT tell me to move on. Just DON'T. I can't. So don't.

 

Ok guys, I'll keep it short. Short.

 

3 years ago...

 

-Girl started being cold. I very much think she cheated.. And yes, I'd like to get back with her, you know, try again...

-We broke up a few times and got back together again.

-She was flirty as hell with other males. I bugged her to change her facebook status to engaged with me to keep guys away, she just kept giving me excuses and lies and wouldn't do it.

-She showed me her cell phone with many messages from guys hitting on her. I broke up for good.

-After like 3 months she came back and asked to get back together. I was mean to her. I was hurt and confused. It seemed to me that she didn't really want to get back together. Her mom and sister used to bug her to get back with me, so I think that's why she asked to...

 

I refused because I didn't want to force her to be in a relationship if she didn't seem to like me anymore. We kissed and all that stuff...

 

That's the short story. Now the question.

I was really wondering if she could still like me? A few months after she asked to get back together, she dyed her hair, started smoking and drinking.

 

That's like... the stuff you do when you are going through something, right...? She has loads of friends, is happy as hell, everything is great in her life. She has no reasons to, unless... You know what I'm saying ?

 

Eh... out of the blues.

 

She never chased me again.

 

 

What do you think?

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Time to move on. Seems to me like she is clearly not interested anymore.

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Oops I just saw what you wrote above. But what else do you want to do about this? Go back to her when she does not want you? That's not very attractive.

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Oops I just saw what you wrote above. But what else do you want to do about this? Go back to her when she does not want you? That's not very attractive.

 

Don't worry man. It's ok!

 

That's the thing, I don't know if she is interested in me. I need someone to shed some light.

 

Maybe she got interested in me again like when we started dating after me being in No contact for so long

 

You know what I mean? I'm really freaking emotional right now... I'm a total disaster right now... nothing ever changes :(

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Why would you want to go back, to be cheated on again? lol

 

She isn't datable. Look at all the things your wrote to describe her. Move on.

 

I can't move on...

Maybe if she is interested in me we could... try again... :(

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Well, if she was interested, she would have contacted you again. She did not. Continue with NC and if its meant to be, there will be a way.

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She isnt. I do not see how you cant see this. Even if you guys got bak together, how long do you think it would last? Do you want to waste your time on a girl like this?

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Well, if she was interested, she would have contacted you again. She did not. Continue with NC and if its meant to be, there will be a way.

 

 

But I don't know... I've been in love with her for all these 3 years and I don't contact her, so what if she is in the same situation?

 

Maybe she changed...? I was a total 4ss to her after she did what she did, so I had some impact on her...

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Beta. She has no respect for you.

 

again, what if she changed? what if she started doing these drugs because of some impact i had on her?

 

that's what i'm trying to say

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You're acting BETA as hell tho lol, People don't change, EVER! It will only be temporarily.

 

Not true. people change if there is a trauma/big impact

 

and things ended up pretty bad. i was a jerk. you know, the one girls reeeeeeeeeally love during the endings

 

i know i'm acting beta, but you have no idea of what i've been through and what i'm going through these 3 years... but i'm not acting on my feelings.

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I agree to what is said above. It will only be TEMPORARY. She treated you badly, she would not hesitate to do it again I feel. Please help yourself and dont waste your time!

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Well, if she did TRULY change and she wanted you, she would come back to you.

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Well, if she did TRULY change and she wanted you, she would come back to you.

 

yeah, but there's hardly any way to find me anymore...

 

like i said, i've loved her for 3 years and didn't chase her/ kept no contact... so what if she did the same and still feels the same?

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Ay man, do what you want. But you letting her step all over you isn't helping. She won't change, and if she had something traumatic go down it will only make things worse.

 

I'm not letting her stop over me. Even though I feel like this, I kept my attitudes as manly as possible.

 

I wanna try again, I'll be a big jerk to her this time so she loves me... I should have been a jerk since the beginning

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I know what you mean. Do you think she really loves you after what she did?

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How does being a jerk make her love you?! You are so confused over this, you are probably gonna mess things up if you get back with her.

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I know what you mean. Do you think she really loves you after what she did?

 

I need to know if she loevs me after what I did. I was a total ass jerk, like she deserves too. After what I did, it had to have some impact on her. Unless she has an iron confidence, which she doesn't! She is insecure

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How does being a jerk make her love you?! You are so confused over this, you are probably gonna mess things up if you get back with her.

 

no, i'll be nice once in a while too :o

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How old are you, broski?

 

This all seems childish to me.

 

I'm an adult.

 

Feeling like this for a girl isn't childish.

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Please DO NOT tell me to move on. Just DON'T. I can't. So don't.

Please DO NOT tell me to move on. Just DON'T. I can't. So don't.

 

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What do you think?

 

I think you're never going to get your ex back if you stay in that frame of mind and ignore the advice that everyone else is giving you just because there isn't a magic Do This = Ex Back that they can offer you.

 

MOVE ON.

EXES NEVER COME BACK TO PEOPLE THAT HAVEN'T MOVED ON.

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I think you're never going to get your ex back if you stay in that frame of mind and ignore the advice that everyone else is giving you just because there isn't a magic Do This = Ex Back that they can offer you.

 

MOVE ON.

EXES NEVER COME BACK TO PEOPLE THAT HAVEN'T MOVED ON.

 

Jeez man, I can't. I tried for 3 years and it never worked. This is an isolated case. I just can't move on... Afraid I'll turn into grandpa and still ache for her :(

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If it has been as long as that and you still can't get over someone... then with the greatest of respect for you as a person and sympathy for what you are going through, get the heck off your computer and out into the world.

 

You're never going to get over her - or get her back, but I don't know why you would want her - if you sit around on a forum mourning for a long-gone relationship. You can take all the advice in the world from people on the internet, but you have to put it into practice and make yourself a person worth loving.

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If it has been as long as that and you still can't get over someone... then with the greatest of respect for you as a person and sympathy for what you are going through, get the heck off your computer and out into the world.

 

You're never going to get over her - or get her back, but I don't know why you would want her - if you sit around on a forum mourning for a long-gone relationship. You can take all the advice in the world from people on the internet, but you have to put it into practice and make yourself a person worth loving.

 

Afraid I already tried going out there. It doesn't work either for me...

I believe I am a person very much worth loving, despite the image i gave out here through this thread.

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This dude is trolling lol.

 

Wow, are you freaking kidding me? First you call me beta then childish then someone says i'm not a lovable person and now a troll? WTH man

 

wow... thanks a lot guys

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