natashka67 Posted October 12, 2004 Posted October 12, 2004 Ive been dating this wrestler guy for a week, and hes just not being a good boyfriend. all he wants to do is basically hook up, but hes sooo sweet!!! i dont want to dump him, but i do want to somehow get the point across that hes not as sensitive and caring as he should be. how can i do that? please help me!!!
SoleMate Posted October 12, 2004 Posted October 12, 2004 You can tell him straight out what you want from him. And please don't give him what HE wants until you're getting what YOU want on a consistent basis over a period of time. And how can he be sweet if he's always nagging you for sex? I would get sick of that pretty quick.
Author natashka67 Posted October 12, 2004 Author Posted October 12, 2004 its not sex hes nagging me for, its oral...its soo annnoying. and ill feel bad if i didnt, its like, grrr!!!
morrigan Posted October 12, 2004 Posted October 12, 2004 Originally posted by natashka67 its not sex hes nagging me for, its oral... He's nagging you for a sexual encounter. People are often on their best behavior when they are trying to be persuasive. Like Solemate said, be clear that you want a full relationship, not a casual come and go. Back this up by not giving in to his sexual demands until you're comfortable with the idea. If he's not willing to respect your boundaries, is he worth your time? If it's only been a week, and he's already showing his true colors, I'd ditch his ass and not give him any sex--be it orally or any other way-- to remember me by.
SoleMate Posted October 12, 2004 Posted October 12, 2004 You've known him a week. He's nagging you for oral sex in an annoying manner. He's putting emotional pressure on you to comply. Can you do me a favor and let your parents know what this guy is up to? I am sure you won't be bothered by his nagging again.
DJ_Dork Posted October 12, 2004 Posted October 12, 2004 He's using you. He's a loser, go find someone who actually appreciates you.
Author natashka67 Posted October 12, 2004 Author Posted October 12, 2004 you guys are right, ill confront him tonight and tell him that i want a ful relationship and that i dont just want to jump into things so fast. a week is absolutely nothing. i dunno, if this doesnt work ill dump him or just mutually agree. i mean, all he does is say "can you please give me a blow job now?" and im just like...grr? i havent given in yet, but i did promise that id give him one today....guess that promise just has to go!
UCFKevin Posted October 12, 2004 Posted October 12, 2004 This guy's an a**h***. Tell him to go to hell.
CurlyIam Posted October 12, 2004 Posted October 12, 2004 If he really likes you, he'll go out with you even if you DON'T give him oral sex. Or any other type of sex for that matter. Now or later. If that's you in the picture, you are a lovely lovely girl. Think what he'll tell his friends, if loosing your self esteem doesn't frighten you. I know he can be a sweatheart an really convincing. I imagine you see eachother every day. Tell him you're not ready for that. And make yourself a bit more unavailable. How about changing his "visiting hours" to... Twice a week? It will be exciting and a bit difficult for him to go: "Soooo, where were we?"
faux Posted October 13, 2004 Posted October 13, 2004 Leave this guy now. Do not fool yourself into thinking that he will care about what you want from him, and what type of relationship you want. Do not complain if I choose to remind you that your behavior is foolish, if you decide to stay with this cretin.
humph.. Posted October 13, 2004 Posted October 13, 2004 "can you please give me a blow job now"??! What kind of a jerk says that to his girlfriend? This guy is treating you like a sex toy. Seriously, stand up to him now before you fall into the pattern of succumbing to his wishes. You will just end up feeling used and abused eventually, trust me. I hate to say this- but in such a short period of time, you are both engaging in these activities, and he is basically making it clear it's all he wants from you...this guy sounds like he looks at you as being "easy". Im not saying you are! but he has no desire to treat you like a girlfriend..i guess the impression he looks at you as a sure bet. if he wanted to have a relationship with you beyond your oral sex skills, then i think he would have made it clear by now. you deserve better than this jerk. dont let him make you feel bad, tell him to f**k off.
dyermaker Posted October 13, 2004 Posted October 13, 2004 Would you give me a b/j, if I asked really nicely? I could forge an emotional attachment.
Mr Spock Posted October 13, 2004 Posted October 13, 2004 Ha!! A really horny one. This guy is DYING for it. He'll tell you whatever you want to hear. It's up to you. Listen, if you WANT to give this guy a blowjob-don't feel guilty about it. However, if you are uncomfortable with rushing into sexual activity so fast, then don't. Either way, he sounds like a young horny guy looking to get his rocks off any way he can. Not ALL of them are like that, but please don't be shocked that he's not "sensitive". He's thinking with his penis, and may continue to do so for the next TEN YEARS. So, if he's really just a big penis in a wrestling suit it's ALL he's ever going to want from you. Wether you wait 3 months, or 3 weeks don't just expect this guy to magically fall in love with you and begin respecting you, it's not going to happen. With you, or any female any time soon. Try dating someone a little more mature maybe? An older man. Who at least would buy you dinner if you gave him head.
humph.. Posted October 13, 2004 Posted October 13, 2004 natashka67, i was just wondering, how old are you and how old is this guy?
Author natashka67 Posted October 14, 2004 Author Posted October 14, 2004 im almost 16 and he just turned 17. i confronted him and told him how i felt...and he agreed that most good relationships start out with the two people being really good friends, so we agreed that we sorta jumped into it. lol. thanks guys!!! i got it settled and im happy now.
Barby Posted October 14, 2004 Posted October 14, 2004 I'm so glad that you're feeling better and that things worked out. I would say if he starts dis-respecting you that way then you should consider not hanging out with him anymore. He is a tad bit older than you and may think since you're younger that you will do what he wants in order to please him (ie thinking your naive). Be careful and always do what makes YOU feel right about yourself (within reason of course)
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