missjones4812 Posted June 16, 2013 Posted June 16, 2013 So today is Fathers Day and my son will be spending the day with his "father" who walked out on us and into the home of some whore he works with about 4 months ago. As much as I try not to, I cannot help but think about the fact that my son will be with him and some random bitch today, a day that is meant to be for family. But he destroyed our family with little or no consequences for him. It feels like I am the one suffering from all of this. Any advice or "slaps in the face" to get me through these tough days is appreciated.
TaraMaiden Posted June 16, 2013 Posted June 16, 2013 yeah. You're thinking like this - but you don't HAVE to think like this. You CAN choose to leave them to it, and go out, see friends, have some fun and appreciate the fact that although it may not feel right, today your son is with his dad, which leave you the free time to enjoy the day for yourself, in the way you want to. 2
macy Posted June 16, 2013 Posted June 16, 2013 I feel the same way. My ex picked up my kids on Thursday to spend the weekend meeting his soon to be wife's family. We just divorced in Feb, albeit after a 1 year separation (in the beginning of the sep. we weren't fully apart though). We were married a long time. I've been in a slump all weekend. Sad for my kids and for the loss of my family. I don't want him back its just sadness. I'll admit I fear my kids will "love" her more. Very stupid insecurity, I know. Hard to not feel sad. I don't have any good advice other than to say, I know what you're going through and I'm sorry. 1
2sure Posted June 16, 2013 Posted June 16, 2013 My daughter is 17 now . Her dad and I separated when she was an infant. She Has always seen him regularly but he has never participated in her life as a parent. He has always been an obstacle for me and a challenge for her to overcome. And she has. She sees him now on her terms. She is spending the day with him. I bought the card and the gift.I don't want him to ever guilt trip her which he loves to do. When I dropped her off this morning he came out to the car and advised me he has only 7 months left to pay child support. He is such an idiot he has no idea he pays until she is 22 or done with college. I'll give him that news when I pick her up. At least that will be nice. 3
TaraMaiden Posted June 16, 2013 Posted June 16, 2013 happy father's day!! What he also fails to realise is that even then - it won't end. he's her father. There is no expiry date. 2
aisuru Posted June 16, 2013 Posted June 16, 2013 MissJones, how great that your son's father is still in his life. That is a positive for you to focus on. I know he betrayed you and that must hurt a million times over. Please hang on to the fact that your son's father is still in his life. That is what matters now. 1
Author missjones4812 Posted June 19, 2013 Author Posted June 19, 2013 Thanks everyone. I went to see my father and had a pretty good day (didn't cry once!!). I realized that he is my sons father, but he chose to give up the chance to really raise his son and gave up on me, a woman who was devoted to him and loved him unconditionally. They will get theirs in the end. Still hurts that he could do this to us, but trying to see it as a tremendous loss on his end!
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