beautiful Posted October 12, 2004 Posted October 12, 2004 Isen't it amazing how much time people give to their ex's? When indeed that time could be spend simply being happy and making new friends? Ask yourself why am I giving so much attention to someone who is jerking me around, treating me unkind, ignores me and whatever other evil behavior they can think of.....................yet I want him/her back! What a waste of time! Do you not think of yourself as special? as a prize to be with? What is love to you? Love is none of the above. So I say, love yourself enough to know that if someone is doing those awful things to you, move on! RUN! My x bf told me he needed space....................space I gave him. I am doing the no contact and am happily living my life. I even been out on a couple of dates already, yes days after he tells me this. I had a blast. How wonderful it was to be around someone who wants you there. I care about my bf and I like him however, I love myself, respect myself and know I am a beautiful and smart woman. NEXT! Is it really that easy? No of course not however you control you. You control your thoughts and therefore you decide to be happy or miserable while they out there happily living their lives not giving a thought or a care about how you feel. It is time to evaluate yourself. Work on yourself and find out why such an attachment to another human being. There is truly a reason for this because if indeed there is self love and respect, there would not be such pain and drama about an ex. Remember the mirror image? we date who we are! How wonderful it is to be freely loved and be with someone who WANTS YOU. Give a healthy minded girl/guy a chance to be with you instead of letting unselfish psychos ruin your lives. Just some food for thought! What do you think? Is it not time for change? Aren't you tired of how your ex is treating you? Why in the world would you want to be with someone who doesen't want you to be there? Why not take the time to be happy and be with someone who wants you there because you are wonderful?
Papillon Posted October 12, 2004 Posted October 12, 2004 Very true. Unfortunately grief over lost love is a relf-reinforcing thing.
Weird Posted October 12, 2004 Posted October 12, 2004 well some people actually truly love thier exes and the breakup they had was not really caused by anything logical so they obviously are going to put time into fidning out why and trying to work things out. I think it is silly for people who actually loved someone to just shrug their shoudlers and move on to the next target and act like nothing happened. That will lead to some serious emotional issues down the road and they most likely will never be able to truly commit to someone. I mean what will happen if a person does in a few relationships and then ends up getting married? Oh no, a bad spot hits and the other person says they need some time to analyze stuff so the person says fine and goes and finds a rebound person to date. Sorry, but I would want my ex to think about me and at least show some interest in me rather than just start dating 2 days afterward. It'd make me think they didn't give a damn about me or they are jsut trying to cover their true feelings by some phony happiness. I do agree that people should live their lives after they breakup but that doesn't mean they have to just totally forget about their ex and possibly getting back together IF they truly did love the person. A lot of relationships end with both parties still being in love and it is circumstances that cause things to end. People do need to look out for #1 and not let someone string them along if it hurts them but at the same time, they shouldn't just ignore the feelings they have and most likely still have. Both are bad for one's emotional level.
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