MissLY Posted June 16, 2013 Posted June 16, 2013 Is there any correct way to reach out to someone from the past? Long story short: I went on a date with this guy in february. It was a 6 hour date and it went quite well. The only thing that annoyed me was the fact that he name dropped a little bit. He also was a show-off. However, he genuinely seemed VERY into me. He worked with my father before, met my mother and is good buddies with my brother. Because of this, I knew that he wasn't just trying to f*** me. Anyway, I didn't give him a chance because a mutual friend bad-mouthed him by saying he was "quite the show-off AND name dropper" so that turned me off quite a bit. Now, 4 months later, he's crossed my mind and I'm wondering if I made the mistake of shutting him down too quickly. I want to reach out to him and see how he is, but I don't want to come off like some lonely chick who's hoping he'll give me another chance (lol) I was thinking something along the lines of "Hi, you crossed my mind, hope you're well" I want to come off very casual but not like I'm brushing him off. Any thoughts are appreciated
InsaneTrombone Posted June 16, 2013 Posted June 16, 2013 Personally for me, if you didn't give me a chance the first time, I wouldn't give you one if you came back around. Him knowing this, it's possible his intentions may have changed for the worse if you do come to him.
Carenth Posted June 16, 2013 Posted June 16, 2013 I've had a few girls do this to me in the past and I shrugged it off and moved on with my life. To this day I still get random messages from some of them "checking up on me" the second I mention I have a girlfriend which is in my reply message, they go silent. Then 6 months - 1 year later they will send another message. Got one last week... In other words I think you missed your chance most likely. For me personally I give a person a chance and if they walk away that is fine, just don't expect the door to be open next time you come around.
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