brokenpromises Posted October 12, 2004 Posted October 12, 2004 Well I have only written in here one other time and it was about my break up with my boyfriend. He and I have been broken up for over 2 months now. We only went out for 6 months but he's been in and out of my life 4 times before that. But those 6 months were the best 6 months of my life. We had a long distance relationship I lived 3 hours away from him, towards the beginning. But it gave me such joy every time I was with him. He and I had the best times together I came home for the summer we spent lots of time together. He would tell me how much he loved me. He would talk about getting a place together after I was done with school. He had out future line up for the two of us. Then he and I started to argue a lot around the last month of our relationship. I would get very jealous if he would talk to a girl or if a girl flirted with him. One day I got on his case all day about something and this upset him. He told me he wanted to break up with me and that things might work out later, but not now. Then he changed his mind and decided he wanted to take a weeks break and then spend a weekend together. After the weekend he decided he didn't want to be with me. He told me that the relationship was too stressful for him and me getting on his case that day was the last straw he said. He said he didn't feel the same about me after that day I ragged on him. So I went to his house to say good bye, he started crying, than I did. (He never cries?) Then we continued to text still after the break up and about a week later he listed 3 girls that he was going to hang out with. Then after about 2 weeks he calls me and brags about all the drinking and clubbing and things he's been into and also brags about this girl who he has been hanging around. I questioned him about whether or not he met her before he broke up with me. He claims that he met her after we broke up. So I believe I found out that he started going out with her about 3 weeks after we broke up and they are still together! well then last Saturday night I called and hung up on my ex from my friends phone. He called back and demanded to know who called him. My friend told him she had the wrong #. Then about an hour later his girlfriend calls my friends place saying that, "we had just called her and wanted to know who we were. " Then after that she called my cell phone and asked if I was (my name). I said yes and who is this she said really snotty, "this is Katie, Adam (Last name) girlfriend." I asked why she called me and she said Adam told her to call my #. Then I asked him why she called me and he said she was really drunk and didn't know who she was calling. why would she have my #?Then I found out that Adam had called my house a week ago. Here are the things i forgot to mention. I am 21 and he is 19 going on 20. The girl he is with now is a senior in high school (17). He told me in the past that he hated high school girls and that they are too immature. Then why is he with her? Why did they hook up so soon? I go to college 3 hours away from him. he still lives at home with his family and works a full time job. So those were some barriers we had. He told me, "maybe things will work out later, in a few years." Why did he have his girlfriend call me? I am so confused I know I need to move on, but I still love him. I really felt that he loved me. Why did he break up with me? I need to get over this jerk!Help! Sorry this is so detailed! Do you thinks he has totally moved on because he has a new girl friend? Any advice would really help.
dizi Posted October 12, 2004 Posted October 12, 2004 Hey....I'm sorry you're hurting...They can be so cruel, can't they? He said that maybe things could work out later, in a few years...then he had his girlfriend call you. Unfortunately, he doesn't want to stop looking or playing with other girls! He is immature- it's just plain childish of him to call you and let you know that he's out clubbing with girls. And heartless. Of course, while he was with you he'd tell you that high school girls are immature! He knew you were jealous of them and wasn't going to ruin his good time by telling you the truth! It's very confusing that he cried, huh? He sounds like a manipulative little b*tch to me! You say that you love him still. What do you love about him? Do you love that he's treated you this way? Has he called you since his girlfriend did? If I were you, I'd try my hardest not to dwell on him. He's not worth it. Don't take his calls. Don't make contact. I hate that the ones that hurt us the most are the ones that we hold on to the hardest in our hearts. We always dwell on "why". WHY did this happen. What did I do wrong? Could I have prevented it? Can I fix it? It can take a long time to get over. Usually it takes a special person to let you know how special YOU are...then that jerky person will be like a splash in the pan, I promise! Either way, he HAS moved on, and he's letting you know that in a big ugly way. Don't play a part in his games. It only FEEDS HIS EGO!!! Guys LOVE that s*it!! Don't wait around "a few years" for him to get this out of his system, k sister? Don't let him destroy your self esteem. Go date people and move on....I know it hurts, but remember that he isn't worth your pain! Respect yourself Best of luck to you...
kellydontwanttasleep Posted October 12, 2004 Posted October 12, 2004 you know why your confused? you forgot the first rule. guys are big dumb animals....lol once you apply that to what they do it makes sence. the next one you get, just pick out the one with the bigger dick you'll feel better
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