howboutno Posted June 16, 2013 Posted June 16, 2013 (edited) Me and my ex's break up was horrible. We dated for an entire year. Everything was great up until she started cheating on me with another guy, and I knew something was up but I ended up finding out the hard way. I caught them both in the act, and I ended up beating the hell out of the guy. Because of this, my ex got extremely angry, from that point on absolutely loathed me and started dating the guy only a few hours later. This didn't really make sense... but it happened and I was extremely hurt. Now even though she apparently loathes me and is keeping with that, and claims she's absolutely in love with this guy she's dating now.. she also strangely seemed to REALLY care about what I was doing. She would forcefully take her friends phones from them, or make some excuse to use it and read all the texts between me and them then get mad at them for even communicating with me(We have the same friends). Also instead of keeping her old facebook and deleting our photos together or anything else, she made not just one.. but two new facebooks. She blocked me on the old one, then made a new one that she also blocked me on and uses now, then she made ANOTHER one that she didn't block me on. What the hell? She didn't delete any of our pictures together on instagram either, and didn't block me or unfollow me on there... Also since one of her best friends is my friend too and we started hanging out all the time after the break-up, and this person didn't think she was right about what she did to me(she was telling lies about me to try and get everyone to hate me, like i abused her and stuff which is astounding because i was so good to her), she got everyone against me and this other girl now. It didn't last very long though, and she's mad about that. There's also other little things like her complaining to her friends about me in ways that makes it seem like she still really cares about what i do or say, or how whenever she see's me anywhere she looks at me all suprised and not angry... idk. What the hell is up with this girl?? Because she even tried to tell me this new guy, who's a major step down from me is better than me and gave her more in a month than I gave her in an entire year.. and that was the month they knew eachother before they were dating. Doesn't make any sense because I gave her my absolute all for an entire year, even though we really wern't getting along very well the month she met this guy. But the month before she met this guy, that's the first time we started having issues really but they wern't that bad until she met the guy she's with now. And when it got bad, it got really bad. Like, she would slap me just because she thought I was being douche and became all demanding and stuff like she was on her period half the time. Even though it got bad, she didn't act like she hated me or lost any feelings for me at all. Also since she apparently loathes me now, every time I tried to talk to her for the first couple weeks ended with her yelling at me and telling me to leave her alone. So I haven't been speaking to her at all. One of the times she tried to explain to me that she's just over me now, she wasn't happy anymore and I need to get over her. But I don't believe that because only 3 weeks before the breakup she was telling me how in love with me she was and how amazing I am, that she never wanted to lose me, she wouldnt know what to do without me, etc etc. I broke up with her on May 14th so it's been a month now Edited June 16, 2013 by howboutno
PDunny Posted June 16, 2013 Posted June 16, 2013 First, sorry to hear that and I am in a similar situation and have been in the situation multiple times. While I may be a hypocrite for saying this, you really should get past her. If your wanting to attempt something with her eventually, kill her with kindness and don't allow her childish games to bother you. She will eventually realize that she was wrong all along and hopefully mature some from the situation. If there is any solace for you, their relationship is doomed to failure and the longer they stay together the longer they will both be miserable. They will constantly have trust issues due to how they got together.
Author howboutno Posted June 19, 2013 Author Posted June 19, 2013 First, sorry to hear that and I am in a similar situation and have been in the situation multiple times. While I may be a hypocrite for saying this, you really should get past her. If your wanting to attempt something with her eventually, kill her with kindness and don't allow her childish games to bother you. She will eventually realize that she was wrong all along and hopefully mature some from the situation. If there is any solace for you, their relationship is doomed to failure and the longer they stay together the longer they will both be miserable. They will constantly have trust issues due to how they got together. Well, she seems to have just moved on with no problem in only one day. When only 3 weeks before she was completely in love with me, apparently. Right now she's just doing her own thing, and doesn't give two ****s about me or what I do or how I am anymore... Well, to my knowledge.
lastresort Posted June 19, 2013 Posted June 19, 2013 She cheated on you then moved on. I know it's hard but move on. There will be Someone much better. Enjoy being single for a while.
aisuru Posted June 19, 2013 Posted June 19, 2013 You sound extremely over invested in her. So many things I could point out in your post, but I will leave it at that. I bet you want this girl to like you still don't you?
mahon451 Posted June 19, 2013 Posted June 19, 2013 Everything about this post screams "NO". She cheated, and behaved very callously about the whole thing. She also sounds a little bit batsh*t, and not the fun kind... more like the "slash your tires" kind. I'd say you dodged a bullet, pal.
Author howboutno Posted June 19, 2013 Author Posted June 19, 2013 You sound extremely over invested in her. So many things I could point out in your post, but I will leave it at that. I bet you want this girl to like you still don't you? I don't see why she wouldn't. But then again, all this stuff happened. And she's bipolar. I just don't know what to do. She basically forgot everything that ever happened between us and labeled me in her head as some kind of woman abuser. And only 3 weeks before, I tried to take a break from her so I could figure out what to do. It made sense, but she freaked out and begged for me back for 2 whole days and promised she'd stop randomly being all weird and bad to me. Buttt she definitely didn't keep that promise. I want her back, I really do. But even after a whole year she moved on...in one day. When I can barely move on after more than a month. Right now I can't even get her back as a friend, and she was the closest person to me..
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