what is this Posted June 15, 2013 Posted June 15, 2013 Me and my ex broke up over 3 years ago, but we have been off and on. Last time we slept together was 2 years ago. Recently she got ahold of me and we met at my place, but we didnt sleep together. I told myself not to do it, and now shes gone cold. Stopped texting me. Since the initial breakup I have had a hard time forgetting about her. I still dream about her. I have not been able to get myself into any new relationships. Every girl I meet , in my mind, is not as good as my ex. I know this is not necessarily true, but its what is in my head. I am having a very hard time wanting to be in another relationship. I dont think any relationship will be like the one I had. Every opportunity I get with a new girl I think of reasons why it wont work. Reasons why she will hurt me or I will hurt her, why I am a terrible boyfriend ect. I cant bring myself to sleep with someone I dont care about. Maybe I should try it? In your experience what is the best way to get over an ex you felt very strongly about? Thanks for the help, I am getting desperate.
SimonSerenade Posted June 16, 2013 Posted June 16, 2013 What's the situation with you 2 exactly?, did she come back randomly or after a break up?, either way you may need a talk with her to find out her motives, it's natural to feel like that, I couldn't think of myself with anyone else after my ex left me 3 years a go then a year and a half later someone came along, it didnt work out but now I feel like as is the one, good on you man for not wanting to sleep with someone you don't care about, I'm the same, I take a lt of pride in what I do in life and I do my best to not do things I know in my heart I will regret, sleeping with girls for the sake of it being one of them. Your completely normal, don't let anyone tell you otherwise, one day someone will come along for you and it'll make you wide what you saw in your ex in the first place.
Author what is this Posted June 16, 2013 Author Posted June 16, 2013 I am not sure what the situation is. It seems like there is no situation. She got hold of me about a month ago out of the blue. From what I gathered she had not been in a relationship recently. She came over, showed interest, I didnt sleep with her. Now it seems the interest is completely gone. Seems like they always come back when you are finally forgetting about them. I dont know what to do to forget about her now. I never totally could forget about her. I just want to move on.
SimonSerenade Posted June 16, 2013 Posted June 16, 2013 That's very strange, did she hint at wanting a relationship at all?, seems a bit strange she would just come over for that reason after such a long time, then to cold like that, what's the history with you 2?, I know it's hard man but you shouldn't give up on women because of this one experience, I know it's scary but if you let someone in, give them your trust and give them a chance, it could turn into the most beautiful thing in the world.
aloneinaz Posted June 16, 2013 Posted June 16, 2013 Why did you meet and ex at your house that you hadn't seen in what appears to be a long while? That's seems odd. Usually, when you haven't seen someone in a while, you meet for a coffee or drink. Do you think agreeing to meet at your place set an expectation for sex? I have to say good job for not being a booty call for her. I don't see how that would have helped the situation what so ever. I think you should NC her and find someone else. 1
Author what is this Posted June 16, 2013 Author Posted June 16, 2013 Why did you meet and ex at your house that you hadn't seen in what appears to be a long while? That's seems odd. Usually, when you haven't seen someone in a while, you meet for a coffee or drink. Do you think agreeing to meet at your place set an expectation for sex? I have to say good job for not being a booty call for her. I don't see how that would have helped the situation what so ever. I think you should NC her and find someone else. As of right now I guess there is no situation. We dated for a few years, the relationship seemed good. Always made each other laugh, didnt fight much, but she ended up leaving me for a chance with another guy that never materialized for her. Today I texted her and got no response, which is weird because her phone is glued to her. when she got hold of me 1 month ago, I had to expectation of sex, but when she got hold me she asked to come over to my place, so I figured that is what she may have been after. I regret not doing it because I am humping the walls now, but it only would have made it more difficult. I guess she was just trying to use me. I dont know how to get over her. I dream about her constantly and no one seems good enough. This had been going on for 3 years.
aloneinaz Posted June 16, 2013 Posted June 16, 2013 As of right now I guess there is no situation. We dated for a few years, the relationship seemed good. Always made each other laugh, didnt fight much, but she ended up leaving me for a chance with another guy that never materialized for her. Today I texted her and got no response, which is weird because her phone is glued to her. when she got hold of me 1 month ago, I had to expectation of sex, but when she got hold me she asked to come over to my place, so I figured that is what she may have been after. I regret not doing it because I am humping the walls now, but it only would have made it more difficult. I guess she was just trying to use me. I dont know how to get over her. I dream about her constantly and no one seems good enough. This had been going on for 3 years. I think the whole NC thing is for exactly like a situation like this. She left you for another guy. Now, she's lonely and horny and say's WTH, calls you and then she ignores you after she doesn't get sex. How can you NOT get over a person like this? Not too many guys would have even taken her call, EVER, after they got dumped for another guy. You need to do what's best of you and NC and then seek therapy or whatever to put her in your rear view mirror.
OJ loved Nicole Posted June 16, 2013 Posted June 16, 2013 she got hold me she asked to come over to my place, so I figured that is what she may have been after. Wellllll, she calls you for sex (and only sex), you don't give it to her, and you're asking why she's not responding to you? Also, you can't call her back and say "I'll have sex with you now" (fulfill your needs). I wish it worked like that, but it doesn't. It's 100% beta, simply walk away, WWBPD (what would Brad Pitt do). Getting over her: only when you find someone who is way better looking and way better in bed. I used to miss my ex until I met my current smoking hot porn star. (FYI, don't EVER pass on sex. I still regret each time I did......... except this one time, she was HUGE).
Author what is this Posted June 16, 2013 Author Posted June 16, 2013 I think the whole NC thing is for exactly like a situation like this. She left you for another guy. Now, she's lonely and horny and say's WTH, calls you and then she ignores you after she doesn't get sex. How can you NOT get over a person like this? Not too many guys would have even taken her call, EVER, after they got dumped for another guy. You need to do what's best of you and NC and then seek therapy or whatever to put her in your rear view mirror. I took her call cause I have zero other options. I am lonely and horny what can I say. And then I dont even screw her.
SimonSerenade Posted June 16, 2013 Posted June 16, 2013 I'm guessing you live in the u.s, there's always someone available in the u.s, just put yourself out there and have some self confidence
Author what is this Posted June 16, 2013 Author Posted June 16, 2013 I'm guessing you live in the u.s, there's always someone available in the u.s, just put yourself out there and have some self confidence What is your idea of putting yourself out there? Just curious how you would go about it
SimonSerenade Posted June 16, 2013 Posted June 16, 2013 Start hanging round bars, start some profiles up on online dating websites and get dating, you may be pleasently surprised, it's better than siting round thinking about this girl, what made her so special to you that she deserves to be so high up on a pedestal? And be honest with yourself.
SimonSerenade Posted June 16, 2013 Posted June 16, 2013 Just go up to some random girl, and start talking ****. U.S women are some of the trashiest, you could probably get her in bed within a few hours of knowing her. (not being sarcastic either) lol @ the dude who said "beta" Your not wrong, a few years a go I went to New York with my first girlfriend and I was being hit on constantly because of my english acsent, my girlfriend was with me at all times!! Lol trashy ain't the right word. 1
Author what is this Posted June 16, 2013 Author Posted June 16, 2013 Wellllll, she calls you for sex (and only sex), you don't give it to her, and you're asking why she's not responding to you? Also, you can't call her back and say "I'll have sex with you now" (fulfill your needs). I wish it worked like that, but it doesn't. It's 100% beta, simply walk away, WWBPD (what would Brad Pitt do). Getting over her: only when you find someone who is way better looking and way better in bed. I used to miss my ex until I met my current smoking hot porn star. (FYI, don't EVER pass on sex. I still regret each time I did......... except this one time, she was HUGE). Ive been meeting a lot of fat skanks lately i cant bring myself to do it lol. There is a part of me that wants to meet a good girl I am attracted to so I can have a nice relationship. Then there is another part of me that wants to meet a girl I dont care about, get her into a relationship, treat her like total ****, and dump her. Just to make myself feel powerful. Know what I mean?
SimonSerenade Posted June 16, 2013 Posted June 16, 2013 So since your ex made the trip to your place for sex, wouldn't that make her a skank?, fat skank lol love that word, so American, we call them slags over here in the uk and there's nothing worse than a fat slag, I used to work with one, she was the workplace cum bucket, had everyone but me and would make so many advances at me, at one point I bumped into her at Manchester Victoria train station and she tried dragging me behind some hairndresserss to have her way with me, I'll never forget the sight of those tea bag boobs when she flashed me, I nearly threw up my hot dog. I can understand where your coming from but that wouldn't be right, just because this woman stripped you of your confidence and pride doesn't mean you should take it away from someone else but I'll admit it can be tempting, can see. Now "pass me a beer bitch!", "why isn't this cigarette lit", "I'm cold give me your coat!", "you gonna hog all the hot water to yourself, you selfish ass!", lol its almost like the roles of man and woman reversed.
OJ loved Nicole Posted June 16, 2013 Posted June 16, 2013 Ive been meeting a lot of fat skanks lately i cant bring myself to do it lol. There is a part of me that wants to meet a good girl I am attracted to so I can have a nice relationship. Then there is another part of me that wants to meet a girl I dont care about, get her into a relationship, treat her like total ****, and dump her. Just to make myself feel powerful. Know what I mean? Hell yea!! Dude I'm going to educate you, life is all about trading up (she did it to you, it's happened to me). I was "dating" 2 girls when I met my current. I always try to keep my PPL full (p*ssy pipeline). It's strange but the more tail you get the more opportunities your get, it's like they smell it on you. Start with a Pinto or 3, just keep trading your way up until you get what you want.
Author what is this Posted June 16, 2013 Author Posted June 16, 2013 Hell yea!! Dude I'm going to educate you, life is all about trading up (she did it to you, it's happened to me). I was "dating" 2 girls when I met my current. I always try to keep my PPL full (p*ssy pipeline). It's strange but the more tail you get the more opportunities your get, it's like they smell it on you. Start with a Pinto or 3, just keep trading your way up until you get what you want. This is the problem! She was sexy as hell. There is no way I want to drive a VW Bug after having a Mercedes you know what I mean. DAMN
SimonSerenade Posted June 16, 2013 Posted June 16, 2013 I bet she had big bazookas, there's just something about big milk bottles that are so hard to get over.
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