Archanaart Posted June 15, 2013 Posted June 15, 2013 Hi everyone, It's my first time posting here but I thought I would give it a try and talk with people that can relate to what I'm going through. The story: My boyfriend and I met through a mutual friend and we hit off right away. He was living in a town four hours always from me and we skyped every night till the sun came up and we visited every two weeks or so. It worked out great and eventually he moved to the city I live in. Now we are apart again once more. But there are some changes. We can't Skype because he doesn't have a Internet at home and he has no idea when he'll be getting it. I can't call him because he is working at his family's business (they don't know about me) so he only calls when it's convenient for him. We can't visit because he is always working and can't take even a day off to see me. And I can't go visit either because of his family. I've told him that I'm frustrated and I can't handle this anymore. Now it just seems like he ignores my needs. We do text everyday and I have made the decision that at the end of the month we need to decide if we are going to stay together. It's been almost two months since we've seen each other and we've been dating for 11 months. Any thoughts or support would be wonderful. I feel alone in this relationship
TMichaels Posted June 16, 2013 Posted June 16, 2013 How old are you two? Why do his parents not know about your relationship? Do yours? Best, TMichaels
Author Archanaart Posted June 16, 2013 Author Posted June 16, 2013 We're both 22 yrs old. His parents are traditional so you kinda have to be really sure you want to marry this person when it comes to involving parents. My mom figured it out but she's more modern. And I haven't told my dad or brother or any other family member. I have a big family and I would rather keep my relationship to myself until I'm ready and sure I want them to know.
justwhoiam Posted June 16, 2013 Posted June 16, 2013 Or maybe he has an official girlfriend. If you decide to go on with him, you can go there with a male friend or a brother and visit him and his family, and make sure about what he's telling you. Otherwise, you'll only have to blame yourself for your own decisions.
TMichaels Posted June 16, 2013 Posted June 16, 2013 His parents are traditional so you kinda have to be really sure you want to marry this person when it comes to involving parents. So are you essentially saying they'll be arranging his marriage for him? If that's the case, cut your losses and get out now. My mom figured it out but she's more modern. And I haven't told my dad or brother or any other family member. I have a big family and I would rather keep my relationship to myself until I'm ready and sure I want them to know. That's fine and understandable, and a good thing because a relationship with this guy is never going to go anywhere with those sort of parameters. Best, TMichaels
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