miss_jaclynrae Posted June 15, 2013 Posted June 15, 2013 By family wasn't too keen on my boyfriend when they first met him. They didn't hate him, but with his age and him being a recovering alcoholic, they were cautious. Since that first meeting we spend LOTS of time with family together, and I am happy to say, my family LOVES him. The other night I was talking to my Aunt and she said something really sweet. "Since the get go we were all pretty suspicious of him due to his age, but I have to say, not only does even your mom adore him, but we were all talking the other night and you two truly do have this chemistry. Sure, your uncle and I love each other, but you two... It just makes me think that sometimes people really DO find that person they are supposed to be with." It was so sweet coming from her, because she originally was pretty critical about me dating him in the beginning. Has anyone else had a connection like this and it was so apparent that other people could see it too? 1
Forever Learning Posted June 16, 2013 Posted June 16, 2013 Has anyone else had a connection like this and it was so apparent that other people could see it too? Congratulations on the family acceptance and your aunt's sweet comments! This sounds like a very spectacular time in your life, savor every moment!!! And yes, I had a super strong connection like that to my boyfriend, for about 3 -4 years in my 20's (we were together a total of 7 years, the first 3-4 years were this prolonged intense honeymoon stage I suppose). We would ache for each other when the other wasn't around. I've seen lots of young couples feel that way about each other, young love in your 20's is so cute. Back then, I took a trip to Australia that lasted a few weeks and at times I could hardly enjoy it because I missed him so badly (I can laugh about that now Wish I hadn't been so distracted missing him and could have focused on enjoying Australia more......). Even though we eventually broke up, we remain good friends, 20 years later! That also depends on personality type of both parties involved. Anyhow, big fat congrats on your very happy relationship!! Enjoy and relish it girl, it's some of the best parts of life
Clockwork Posted June 23, 2013 Posted June 23, 2013 Yeah, I've had that before. I was smart enough to marry the girl. Can't complain, even to this day. We are still perfect for each other and people can see that. But congrats on your situation as well, nothing feels better than when other people consider you to be an example of how to love one another.
Star Gazer Posted June 23, 2013 Posted June 23, 2013 Really, Jaclyn? Another boasting thread? In every relationship I've been in, outsiders have commented on what a connection we have from the outside, even with just dudes I'm on a second date with, and it doesn't go any further. I tend to not put too much stock in what others say about my relationship, even if it's positive.
veggirl Posted June 23, 2013 Posted June 23, 2013 your aunt told you that your family was all sitting around talking about your chemistry with your bf? nope, never had someone say something like that to me. with my family its either "yay" or "nay", pretty simple. I've never had a stranger or friend talk about the chemistry I have with a man either. I've also never noticed/thought about the chemistry other couples have. I guess I've never met any couples that seem to have SOOO much more chemistry than all the other happy couples in the world....
xxoo Posted June 23, 2013 Posted June 23, 2013 We have gotten comments over the years. The most common is people saying that they want what we have. It's nice, but it can also feel like pressure to be perfect. We aren't perfect, of course, and personally, I'm not comfortable being held as a role model of relationship greatness until we are old and gray and still in love
Els Posted June 23, 2013 Posted June 23, 2013 Well... yeah, I guess. It's not something I personally attribute a lot of importance to, though. It's great to have people be supportive of our R, of course, and I try to do the same for those people in return as well. But in the end, though, IMO those comments are more of a 'being supportive' thing, that you do for friends and family whom you think seem to be happy in their Rs. It's sweet, but unless you're confiding every detail of your R in the people who are saying that, it doesn't necessarily mean much except as a nice thing to say. That's how I think about them, at least.
veggirl Posted June 23, 2013 Posted June 23, 2013 Sure, your uncle and I love each other, but you two... It just makes me think that sometimes people really DO find that person they are supposed to be with." It was so sweet coming from her, because she originally was pretty critical about me dating him in the beginning. Has anyone else had a connection like this and it was so apparent that other people could see it too? That's very sad what she said about her own relationship. I wonder if your uncle knows she feels that way I do find it off that she or anyone else would compare a 1 yr relationship to a presumably long term marriage. 3
xxoo Posted June 23, 2013 Posted June 23, 2013 I do find it off that she or anyone else would compare a 1 yr relationship to a presumably long term marriage. I agree. When it's come up with us, it's been the other way around....people realizing that they are not dating "the one" because it doesn't seem to measure up to the long term relationship.
Els Posted June 23, 2013 Posted June 23, 2013 That's very sad what she said about her own relationship. I wonder if your uncle knows she feels that way I do find it off that she or anyone else would compare a 1 yr relationship to a presumably long term marriage. Hrm, yeah, I hadn't noticed this. This IS weird. I am hoping for her and her H's sake that she was joking.
KatZee Posted June 23, 2013 Posted June 23, 2013 I had a complete stranger come up to my ex boyfriend and I and comment about how wonderful of a couple we were. At the time it really flattered me, that people not even in our lives could just see how much we cared about each other and the connection we shared. Members of his family also would tell me how happy he was and they saw how happy I made him. That relationship turned out to be the biggest lie in the end, so I kind of don't take too much stock into what people say. No one really knows the truth of what goes on behind closed doors between you two. Others may see a "great" and "chemistry" filled relationship when in reality there may be serious issues. I saw the same thing go on with a friend and her ex fiance. Everyone thought they were perfect and often said so. Turns out he was abusing her. That's great that your family accepts him and you're happy but don't put too much stock into what people do, or don't say.
Author miss_jaclynrae Posted June 23, 2013 Author Posted June 23, 2013 She wasn't comparing their relationship, they are amazing together, but she like I, belve certain couples have an amazing chemistry. My other aunt an uncle being one of them. Not saying things are perfect, just noticing the connection.
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