LostGirl11 Posted June 15, 2013 Posted June 15, 2013 Just a short thread for me to come back to when I'm having a bad day.... If you're not a dog lover then you probably won't really understand this. I've had my dog since I was 12 so she is a massive part of the family! I love her with all my heart. She took a turn for the worst a couple of days ago and I thought I was going to lose her. It was pretty much touch and go. I've never had to deal with losing anyone or any pets so the excruciating pain that I felt was very new to me. So while I was in the midst of it all I didn't think about my ex, actually, yes I did, I thought of how useless he would be if he were with me. The man is completely devoid of empathy. Apart from that fleeting thought he wasn't thought about at all. He really isn't important. So yeah, puts things into perspective.
SadPanda22 Posted June 15, 2013 Posted June 15, 2013 I am glad that you were able to get some perspective on your ex. People who lack empathy are awful, ugh. More than that, I am really sorry to hear about your dog. I hope that she is okay.
Author LostGirl11 Posted June 15, 2013 Author Posted June 15, 2013 I am glad that you were able to get some perspective on your ex. People who lack empathy are awful, ugh. More than that, I am really sorry to hear about your dog. I hope that she is okay. It's just a shame that something like that had to happen to make me realise that he isn't that important to me. If he was caring and had empathy then I might have wanted him around but he would have been as much use as a chocolate teapot. She's doing okay thanks, she's a little fighter.
Chris715 Posted June 15, 2013 Posted June 15, 2013 He could be empathetic and is just really bad at showing it which admittedly still isn't very helpful. Did you ever talk to him about showing his emotions? Either way I'm glad you got some perspective on the whole thing and I'm sorry about your dog.
Author LostGirl11 Posted June 15, 2013 Author Posted June 15, 2013 He could be empathetic and is just really bad at showing it which admittedly still isn't very helpful. Did you ever talk to him about showing his emotions? Either way I'm glad you got some perspective on the whole thing and I'm sorry about your dog. Yes I did, but he just didn't understand. He's a very selfish person. Selfish people don't have empathy. That's something I've learnt.
Chris715 Posted June 15, 2013 Posted June 15, 2013 Yes I did, but he just didn't understand. He's a very selfish person. Selfish people don't have empathy. That's something I've learnt. You're a lot better without him then, but you already figured that out. Here's hoping you find someone who deserves you soon 1
Author LostGirl11 Posted June 15, 2013 Author Posted June 15, 2013 I've never been so scared in my life but she seems to be doing okay now. I just hope I don't start missing my ex again now everything has calmed down. But like I said, it did put things into perspective. 1
theonlyjuan Posted June 15, 2013 Posted June 15, 2013 You just need something else to occupy your mind. Something good hopefully
avelonia2013 Posted June 15, 2013 Posted June 15, 2013 Glad to hear your dog is okay! It doesn't matter what the person's intentions are, if they dnt bring out the best in you then they are simply not the right match. It doesn't make either of you good or bad; by not wanting him to be there means the two of you are simply not the right match for each other. It's hard when you're greiving the way things were, but you will get through it and find yourself in a much better place and ready for someone who is a right match. Stay strong and listen to the message this situation has taught you.
Author LostGirl11 Posted June 15, 2013 Author Posted June 15, 2013 Glad to hear your dog is okay! It doesn't matter what the person's intentions are, if they dnt bring out the best in you then they are simply not the right match. It doesn't make either of you good or bad; by not wanting him to be there means the two of you are simply not the right match for each other. It's hard when you're greiving the way things were, but you will get through it and find yourself in a much better place and ready for someone who is a right match. Stay strong and listen to the message this situation has taught you. Yeah, when you're going through stressful times you normally crave the support from the one you love. But I didn't, because I knew he wouldn't offer any care or support. But if it was the the other way around I would have been there for him no end. Says a lot really...
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