KatZee Posted June 15, 2013 Posted June 15, 2013 but i'm small & adorable totally harmless looking it would be creepy if a guy did that Some of the craziest things come in small packages. If you're putting heavy emphasis on FB especially if he doesn't even HAVE it, it gets his radar going. It was obvious he wasn't interested when he didn't ask for your digits when you were talking to him. He was perfectly fine with letting you walk out without seeing you ever again. It's not up to the girl to chase, no matter how "harmless" you look.
Author lovexo Posted June 15, 2013 Author Posted June 15, 2013 Some of the craziest things come in small packages. If you're putting heavy emphasis on FB especially if he doesn't even HAVE it, it gets his radar going. It was obvious he wasn't interested when he didn't ask for your digits when you were talking to him. He was perfectly fine with letting you walk out without seeing you ever again. It's not up to the girl to chase, no matter how "harmless" you look. there's nothing wrong with a girl pursuing a guy it's 2013
KatZee Posted June 16, 2013 Posted June 16, 2013 there's nothing wrong with a girl pursuing a guy it's 2013 Sure. But if you want to emasculate a guy right out of the gate, go right ahead. It's 2013 but guy's instinctively will always have that caveman desire to chase what they like. Men are hunters. Some guys do like a girl who is aggressive but most enjoy to pursue, to court, and to chase the woman. A girl who throws herself at a man is NOT a challenge. It's way too easy, there's nothing to work for. I will always advocate a woman coming off less aggressive than the male in the beginning. This way, you can also SEE his level of interest in you. Is he asking for your number? No? Is he calling you? No? If you're the one pushing, and chasing, and contacting, it really doesn't give you any indication of his interest level. Guy should lead in the beginning. 1
Floridita Posted June 16, 2013 Posted June 16, 2013 Wait, so you shop at the store and you have no idea why they would be calling you? I used to work in retail, and we were ALWAYS calling people who had shopped there to let them know about sales, etc. And how do you even know that was his brother? It could just be some guy with the same last name. 1
InsaneTrombone Posted June 16, 2013 Posted June 16, 2013 It comes down to this, pretty simply. You either return the call and see what happens, or you wait to see if he ever calls again. You have the motive to stalk his family on FB but you won't call him? You're the one chasing him, make a better effort if you're curious.
Author lovexo Posted June 16, 2013 Author Posted June 16, 2013 Wait, so you shop at the store and you have no idea why they would be calling you? I used to work in retail, and we were ALWAYS calling people who had shopped there to let them know about sales, etc. And how do you even know that was his brother? It could just be some guy with the same last name. the store doesnt have my phone number, they don't ask & I deleted his bro on fb but I knew it was him because there are pictures of the two of them
shexy Posted June 16, 2013 Posted June 16, 2013 so I met someone on Monday we were talking and I asked him last name (so I could look him up on facebook) turns out he doesn't have a facebook but his brother does so I added & messaged his brother telling him to give the guy I like my number I guess he did because he called me (from work) on weds but I couldnt answer & that was it haven't heard from him at all .. any advice on whats going on? why would he call me from work & not text me from his phone? should I message his brother again to see whats up? I dont wanna seem desperate & creepy but I have no patience to wait PS: his bro read my messages on facebook but never replied to me I think messaging his brother was kind of desperate and creepy. And, the brother read the messages and didn't respond? If it were me, I'd take the hint and leave it alone.
Author lovexo Posted June 16, 2013 Author Posted June 16, 2013 I think messaging his brother was kind of desperate and creepy. And, the brother read the messages and didn't respond? If it were me, I'd take the hint and leave it alone. if I were him i'd be flattered, but I did delete the brother & am leaving it alone
Floridita Posted June 16, 2013 Posted June 16, 2013 Let's put it this way: If you chatted with a guy, but didn't give him your number, and then he found one of your siblings or parents on facebook and added them, and then messaged them asking them to forward his number to you...you would NOT be creeped out? 1
KatZee Posted June 16, 2013 Posted June 16, 2013 if I were him i'd be flattered, but I did delete the brother & am leaving it alone You're just projecting because you're into this dude. If some guy chatted you up and you weren't interested, you didn't give any of your info to him, and then all of a sudden you get a message from your sibling that this person contacted them, you'd be flattered? That's so far from normal it's not even funny. It's not cute. It's not flattering. It's weird. Don't do this again. 2
undergroundlife13 Posted June 16, 2013 Posted June 16, 2013 Its not THAT bad, but i wouldnt recommend doing it again...
crude Posted June 16, 2013 Posted June 16, 2013 This way, you can also SEE his level of interest in you. Is he asking for your number? No? Is he calling you? No? If you're the one pushing, and chasing, and contacting, it really doesn't give you any indication of his interest level. Guy should lead in the beginning. How about changing a few words. This way, you can also SEE HER level of interest in you. Is SHE asking for your number? No? Is SHE calling you? No? If you're the one pushing, and chasing, and contacting, it really doesn't give you any indication of HER interest level. GAL should lead in the beginning. The reality is it's women who don't want anything to change, so they insist that men want to pursue and need a challenge or they're emasculated. The majority of men today don't want that. They have female bosses, sisters going to medical school, they want to hold and love their children, but women keep hammering the stereotypes into the guys. Certain women insist on the status quo, no matter how many men reject it. 2
Author lovexo Posted June 16, 2013 Author Posted June 16, 2013 How about changing a few words. This way, you can also SEE HER level of interest in you. Is SHE asking for your number? No? Is SHE calling you? No? If you're the one pushing, and chasing, and contacting, it really doesn't give you any indication of HER interest level. GAL should lead in the beginning. The reality is it's women who don't want anything to change, so they insist that men want to pursue and need a challenge or they're emasculated. The majority of men today don't want that. They have female bosses, sisters going to medical school, they want to hold and love their children, but women keep hammering the stereotypes into the guys. Certain women insist on the status quo, no matter how many men reject it. exactly just because a guy thinks a girl is cute doesn't mean he's gonna ask for her number right away sometimes the girls gotta make the move
MrNate 2.0 Posted June 16, 2013 Posted June 16, 2013 I know its weird but isnt that what facebooks for? I mean he seemed interested but too shy to give me his number & i'm too shy too so thats why I did it on facebook & if he is creeped out why call? Facebook is for stalking. But what you did was just....
Author lovexo Posted June 16, 2013 Author Posted June 16, 2013 Facebook is for stalking. But what you did was just.... I know but it's the only thing I could think of to try & get in touch with him I didnt wanna do it in person & get nervous
Eggplant Posted June 16, 2013 Posted June 16, 2013 Who cares? You're putting way too much energy into a man you don't even know. Forget him. 1
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