confooozed Posted June 15, 2013 Posted June 15, 2013 I broke up with my boyfriend recently and he took it very bad. I cried so much and felt awful. He was amazing. He treated me exactly how a girl should be treated. I had such a great time with him. He was so sweet,caring and the nicest person I have ever met. He made me feel much better about myself and gave me my confidence back. He always took me out, paid for everything. He used to always buy me nice gifts and said the nicest things to me. I felt awful because I don't love him. I don't know why, i just don't and I really wish I did. We would have had the perfect relationship if I did. It just made me feel like it wasn't going anywhere and that isn't fair on him. I didn't feel like time would change this. Why don't I love him? I loved my ex ex boyfriend, although we argued a bit and he wasn't any where near as nice as my current ex. He used to make me feel insecure about myself. I really don't understand! Will my feelings change after being apart for a while?
SimonSerenade Posted June 15, 2013 Posted June 15, 2013 This is a hard question to answer for you, it's a hard situation to be in on either side, I suppose it would depend on if you loved him once or not at all, maybe he's like the playstation vita, he's too good, he does too much, so much so that nobody wants him, I'll bet you had to work for everything with the man before him and you stuck by him because he had so much power over you where as this guy gives you all you ever needed and you have no reason to work for any of it. Sometimes it can come down to something as fickle like that, If you've never been in love with this guy before there's nothing wrong with taking it slow and seeing where it goes, If you have then maybe take a break from him and try to sort your head out, you can always fall in love again, so many people in relationships go through phases like this, too many people too often run away from it rather than see it through, I suppose you have to decide what kind of person you are. First of all, give yourself a break, I know right now you feel terrible and that jut shows that your a honest human being, if you decide he isn't what you want, break it to him gently and make it known that it has nothing to do with him, nice guys like that don't deserve to doubt themselves, praise him for who he is, be honest and bow out of his life, that's the kindest thing you can do. Honestly I've been in this situation before, on both sides, it's hard, right now my ex has left me because she doesn't love me anymore, she wishes she did but she doesn't, it's hard but I just have to accept that and move on. A long time a go there was a girl who loved me and would of done anything for me but I didn't feel the same, anytime I'd get out of a relationship, there she was ready to make me feel better and treat me good, she was a lovely girl and it probably would of been a most wonderful relationship but I didn't feel it, I don't know why but it wasn't something I ever felt for her. Now I'm older and wiser and would love a girl like that and would fall in love so easily for a girl like that, as you get older your romantic and emotional needs shift and you just want someone to give you stability and find love in the appreciation for everything they do for you and how they make you feel good about yourself. Maybe this guy is all you ever wanted but just not what you want right at this moment in time, don't think your a bad person for feeling the way you do, that's just how it goes sometimes.
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