Zammo25 Posted June 15, 2013 Posted June 15, 2013 Being 50 and single now I feel the game is up. Can't see any hope for the future now. Impossible. Is it best to just accept this fact and not fight it ?
CarrieT Posted June 15, 2013 Posted June 15, 2013 Depends on your attitude. I am 49 and *just* got engaged... But it took a lot of work on my part - and a lot of OLD - to find someone. 1
HokeyReligions Posted June 15, 2013 Posted June 15, 2013 My brother was widowed in hi mid 40's and dated a lot until he found his now wife who was widowed. They have been together for nearly 20 years now. Some of the women brother dated were skanky, one was nice but smoked pot and brother wanted no part of that and he almost gave up. Similar experiences wit SIL untol they met thru the personals in the paper. They are retired now and very happy. I guess the point of my story is don't give up but don't shut down either. Be happy in what you have, enjoy dating for datings sake and if you do fall in love again great but if you don't you can still make your life meaningful. I know its easier said than done. But I've seen it happen for many in my age bracket. I've seen it not happen too but that doesn't mean they are unhappy or unfulfilled. 1
carhill Posted June 15, 2013 Posted June 15, 2013 If relationships and marriage taught me anything, it was/is the transitory nature of living. Nothing stays the same. If we're lucky, we have another 30-40 years of life and hopefully decent health. That in itself is a gift. If single is the prescription for 50 (or 54 in my case), it is. Lots of living and loving left to do. One doesn't have to be coupled to do that. Good luck. 1
thefooloftheyear Posted June 15, 2013 Posted June 15, 2013 I have to disagree... Im 48 and just about out of a divorce..I can say that while I am not quite ready to jump into the pool quite yet, I have had absolutely no problem attracting nice women..I think its gonna be fun for a while, actually... I think I look good and I take care of myself and I am also aware that just about anyone you meet is going to have some baggage. Its just the way it is.. It seems like you have a Charlie Brown type of attitude..Lose that and maybe some good things will come your way.. TFY 1
Author Zammo25 Posted June 15, 2013 Author Posted June 15, 2013 Not sure about the Charlie Brown reference. Just have to be realistic that the good days are behind me now.
thefooloftheyear Posted June 15, 2013 Posted June 15, 2013 Not sure about the Charlie Brown reference. Just have to be realistic that the good days are behind me now. Dude...at 50??? I would have KILLED to have the body I have now (at 48) in my mid twenties. Yes, im dead serious..Was it easy? ..No..But you can do it. And all my important parts work just as they did when I was a kid without any help. People start new careers and businesses in their 50's..50 is not old. And, as much as I hate to say this(and I mean no disrespect to women here), but middle aged men who arent total losers are VERY desirable...In fact, many guys our age are regularly scoring 30 year olds. I know I could do it easily. I prefer women my age, but thats not the point. 50 is NOT over the hill anymore. TFY 1
Feelin Frisky Posted June 16, 2013 Posted June 16, 2013 No, it's not over. You'd be surprised. Survivor people get more accepting as they get older. It always comes down to getting social exposure though. I don't get a lot of that. But when I do, something usually happens. Reality sorts itself out and people of both genders tend to gravitate toward the best available person in their immediate social circle.
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